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morgousky

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got a real problem here. Can’t sleep, days in limbo, feeling my health decline for real. Don’t even want to eat anymore.

This one year old is indescribable. My four year old was great, no issues at all. My one year old is about to kill me. He bites, punches, kicks, has temper tantrums, will absolutely refuse to sthu. All day, all night. Doc says he’s healthy but he’s killing me.

Liquid Benadryl does NOT work.

What the hell do I do and why are these two kids nothing alike? Please help.

If I don’t respond quickly to replies it’s because I’m assed out.

Please help.
 
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Ambien always knocks me into a coma. Don’t take it every night because it can become habit forming.

I usually take it two nights and then skip a night. The nights I skip I take two melatonin tablets. They don’t work as well as Ambien, but they help. The nights that I take Ambien, I try to limit my alcohol intake to no more than five drinks.
 
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Rex Kwon Do

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For the kiddo....I *think* they have safe kiddo melatonin, but consult a physician obvs.

For you, melatonin helps get you to sleep but there’s a drug called trazadone your doc may prescribe you. Comatose, keeps you asleep. It’s in the antidepressant family even though it’s not used for that anymore. I took it during an extremely difficult stretch in my life and wouldn’t have survived the sleep deprivation without it.

As far as the kids being different.....kids are different, simple as that. I have three, first two boys are different as night and day. Flavor of life and those kinds of things....
 
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You seriously need to consult your PCP as far as your medical issues. Long term sleep deprivation can cause other health problems. As far as the kids, all kids are different.
 
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WayneDougan said:
I don’t get it. Can you not sleep because your 1 year old is keeping you up, or is the fact that he’s currently a little terror a separate issue altogether?
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Can’t sleep because of him. He screams every 45 minutes.
 
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Our middle kid didn’t sleep through the night until he was almost 3. Had meltdowns all over the place and was generally a terror. Or at least that’s how I remember it. I lost my temper several times (nothing physical, of course). Eventually everything calmed down and he’s a great kid now.

Not sure how else to put it, but we just went through it and we got through it. There’s no reasoning with a child that age and I had to make myself realize it and just deal. It sucked, at the time.

All that being said, you have to take care of yourself. If sleep is really the issue you should try and work out a schedule where at least one of you (wife, I assume) is allowed to sleep through the night without bothering the other, except in case of an emergency. If you’re both working normal work shifts, it’s something you just have to do or you’re both going to suffer physically and emotionally.

Last thing I’ll say about kids who have issues in general (and not saying yours does or will). I thought mine was going to have some serious emotional problems as he grew up and he did have a few minor developmental and speech delays. No one should feel any kind of stigma in getting their kids any kind of help that parents feeel is necessary. Ever.
 
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Had a buddy who's brother is a regular on here who had a kid who didn't sleep through the night for the first year and a half. He told me "you start thinking really dark thoughts, man". So I can imagine what you are going through. Good luck, and keep your patience.
 
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Try melatonin, my oldest son has autism and it really helped him. I bought the 10 mg capsules and pulled them apart put about 1/10th of the powder in his juice at bedtime. It was a miracle the way it worked. After a while bedtime became more routine and he doesn't take it anymore.

I know how you feel, I even felt suicidal at a point. Thoughts I never had before, but I just wanted to rest so bad, but I could never be that selfish. Hang in there IT WILL GET BETTER I promise you that.
 
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We were very strict with schedules for our kids. Had no trouble with them.....unless we got them off schedule then they were bad. We have STRONGLY recommended schedules for all parents we know.
 
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As a 20 year veteran insomniac I am way too familiar. I took ambien & amitriptyline mixture for 15 yrs. That stopped working a few yrs back. So they me switched to Lunesta with Doxepin. Works very well, the Doxepin knocks me out and the Lunesta keeps me asleep. The only thing is you have to plan for about 10 hrs. You cant take them at 11PM if you expect to get up at 6AM.
 
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BlueRaider22 said:
We were very strict with schedules for our kids. Had no trouble with them.....unless we got them off schedule then they were bad. We have STRONGLY recommended schedules for all parents we know.
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This. Routine, schedules, bedtime stories. Routines help kids to feel like their life is under control. Fewer tantrums, sleep schedules better regulated.
 
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backbeatcat said:
This. Routine, schedules, bedtime stories. Routines help kids to feel like their life is under control. Fewer tantrums, sleep schedules better regulated.
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May I also add that you have to be "on top" of the kids all the time. For example, they will often tell teachers to start the yr being a flat out dictator and a beast of an enforcer. You can always scale back the discipline......but trying to under discipline then play catch up is a recipe for disaster.
 
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Rex Kwon Do said:
For the kiddo....I *think* they have safe kiddo melatonin, but consult a physician obvs.

For you, melatonin helps get you to sleep but there’s a drug called trazadone your doc may prescribe you. Comatose, keeps you asleep. It’s in the antidepressant family even though it’s not used for that anymore. I took it during an extremely difficult stretch in my life and wouldn’t have survived the sleep deprivation without it.

As far as the kids being different.....kids are different, simple as that. I have three, first two boys are different as night and day. Flavor of life and those kinds of things....
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Trazadone is much preferred over Ambien. It's not habit forming. The more you take Ambien the less effective it is. So you end up increasing the use, hence the addiction. I speak from family experience.
 
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How liberal are you? After birth abortion could be a possibility.

Seriously though, my daughter droveme nearly to the nuthouse when she was a baby and my boys were of no issue. It was stomach related pains but still drove me crazy.
 
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kyboy1998 said:
How liberal are you? After birth abortion could be a possibility.

Seriously though, my daughter droveme nearly to the nuthouse when she was a baby and my boys were of no issue. It was stomach related pains but still drove me crazy.
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IM UP
 
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