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Wife and I are in Manhattan for a little parents only trip and wanted to ask the AKB for their opinion on this situation: We drove up to Philly from VA and dropped the kids off at their grandparents while we get some R&R in NYC. We take Amtrak from Trenton and upon arriving to the newly refurbished Penn/Moynihan Station we get in the cab queue to go to the hotel. When we get in and tell the cabbie where we’re going and he says ‘That’s only a few blocks from here - you can walk.’ We have four pieces of luggage between us. We push back a bit but he doesn’t want to drive. I take a picture of his license and we get our luggage and walk to the hotel, which is about a 20 minute walk. So, I was going to report him but in doing so you agree to participate in a hearing, and not sure I want to do that. Am I the a**hole here? Or is he?

Also, got to eat at a bucket list restaurant for me - Ivan Ramen in the Lower East Side. Absolutely ridiculous ramen with tremendous umami punch. Best I’ve had. Restaurant is loud but food quality is excellent; reminds me of the tight near hallway like eateries in Shinjuku’s Golden Gai. Afterwards we went to a cocktail bar around the corner which was also very good. NYC may be my favorite city in the world…

If you haven’t seen Ivan’s episode of Netflix’s ‘Chef’s Table’ it’s worth a look; my favorite episode by far.

 
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CbusLion said:
He's the a-hole.

This board needs more AITA! Especially in the offseason
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It’s a popular subreddit. But don’t go there - the stuff they ask about is horrible.

And agree! He is the a**hole!
 
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I go there all the time, but we need our own, more personalized version. I am sure very few of us will be the a-holes, because we are great and all-knowing.
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It’s a popular subreddit. But don’t go there - the stuff they ask about is horrible.

And agree! He is the a**hole!
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CbusLion said:
I go there all the time, but we need our own, more personalized version. I am sure very few of us will be the a-holes, because we are great and all-knowing.
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Esteemed BWI Board members in the McAndrew Abbey Drawing Room…

 
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There’s a thing called the Porsche tax. An example is the oil changes cost $400. You just experienced the Manhattan tax.
I paid the Manhattan tax a few years ago with a yellow cab stripe on my bumper, and received a middle finger in the process. Enjoy your trip, I’m going to hit the bands in town app and find you a band to see, hopefully in brooklyn.
 
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Midnighter said:
Wife and I are in Manhattan for a little parents only trip and wanted to ask the AKB for their opinion on this situation: We drove up to Philly from VA and dropped the kids off at their grandparents while we get some R&R in NYC. We take Amtrak from Trenton and upon arriving to the newly refurbished Penn/Moynihan Station we get in the cab queue to go to the hotel. When we get in and tell the cabbie where we’re going and he says ‘That’s only a few blocks from here - you can walk.’ We have four pieces of luggage between us. We push back a bit but he doesn’t want to drive. I take a picture of his license and we get our luggage and walk to the hotel, which is about a 20 minute walk. So, I was going to report him but in doing so you agree to participate in a hearing, and not sure I want to do that. Am I the a**hole here? Or is he?

Also, got to eat at a bucket list restaurant for me - Ivan Ramen in the Lower East Side. Absolutely ridiculous ramen with tremendous umami punch. Best I’ve had. Restaurant is loud but food quality is excellent; reminds me of the tight near hallway like eateries in Shinjuku’s Golden Gai. Afterwards we went to a cocktail bar around the corner which was also very good. NYC may be my favorite city in the world…

If you haven’t seen Ivan’s episode of Netflix’s ‘Chef’s Table’ it’s worth a look; my favorite episode by far.

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No one is an a**hole here. Its a business. Taking you those few blocks might cost him a ride that would net him 4 times as much. On the other hand, you should not have to haul your own luggage that distance. I would have offered him a very generous tip on top of the fare and if he still refused, called the hotel to see if they might help. Perhaps they have a courtesy van that could pick you up. Failing both, you were left with walking, which apparently saved you a bit of cash.
 
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fairgambit said:
No one is an a**hole here. It’s a business. Taking you those few blocks might cost him a ride that would net him 4 times as much. On the other hand, you should not have to haul your own luggage that distance. I would have offered him a very generous tip on top of the fare and if he still refused, called the hotel to see if they might help. Perhaps they have a courtesy van that could pick you up. Failing both, you were left with walking, which apparently saved you a bit of cash.
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I get it but I think they do not have a say in their fare - it’s why you can report them for refusing to drive you to your requested location. I always give a nice tip and try to take cabs when I can over Uber, but this doesn’t help. I’ll add in Tokyo I got a cab and asked to go to a restaurant and the driver took me there - some 200 feet away - without saying a word (I had no idea where the restaurant was).
 
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I go there all the time, but we need our own, more personalized version. I am sure very few of us will be the a-holes, because we are great and all-knowing.
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Reddit AITA example….


AITA for taking away my Wife’s chance at having another baby?

Hey! Throwaway as to not cause any bad blood and keep this anonymous outside of my family, apologies!

I’m a (35M) and my Wife is a (35F) and we have been together now for coming on 15 years. We’re married, have a home and two children (11M & 6F).

Over the last 12 months, my Wife has changed her stance on children from not wanting any (due to childbirth complications the last time around) to now desperately wanting another baby (and has said this would be the last).

I’m very happy and content with the two children we have and have previously been a firm “No” to any more kids - I have a number of reasons, including not feeling like I have adequate housing space for another person, we’ve got >20k debt from a history of poor financial decisions (this was early in on relationship and we’re still paying for it now, literally) and so I don’t like the idea of the financial stress a new baby brings, I work from home and have recently been promoted to a senior position and feel like a new baby being around will be distracting and potentially impact my work performance, and the list goes on.

However - with my Wife’s change in heart has come a change in behaviour and mood. We’ve talked, and argued, and shouted, and not shouted, all because I was a hard “no”. It was a constant point of friction and fall out. I took some quiet reflection time whenever I had the chance and basically weighted up that a marriage is a two person union, and I need to take both sides into account. I felt a hard “No” was unfair of me as that offers no sense of compromise on the matter. From there, I changed my stance to a “the door is slightly open but I have lots of concerns about if we went through with it”. This was initially met gladly, but in time ended up back where we started. I changed again - this time I said let’s review in 12 months. As long as we remain in a good place and we maybe focus on debt for 12 months we can talk again about the possibility. Again, good for a bit then became a problem. I then said six months - I feel like this is my last chance to trim up somewhat and thought that would be a good goal then we’ll think about it. Again, good but now bad.

My Wife is telling me that I need to decide now - and if I don’t, then it’s a “no”. On the face of it, doesn’t seem like too much of a problem - however, my Wife is constantly upset. She’s crying all the time, she’s telling me how depressed she is, she’s giving me a sense that she resents me and just my presence annoys her because I’m taking her last chance away from her. She is telling me that she genuinely feels like she will never be able to get over it and move on, and feels like this is the end for us.

When she’s happier, she tells me all the nice things about why I’d be a good dad again or the nice things a baby will bring, but then when she’s sad she refuses to speak to me on the phone, she’ll turn a lot of what I say into an argument and will look to actively avoid spending time with me. I’m a guilty person by nature, and I feel really bad about the decision I’m making. AITA?
 
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Midnighter said:
Reddit AITA example….


AITA for taking away my Wife’s chance at having another baby?

Hey! Throwaway as to not cause any bad blood and keep this anonymous outside of my family, apologies!

I’m a (35M) and my Wife is a (35F) and we have been together now for coming on 15 years. We’re married, have a home and two children (11M & 6F).

Over the last 12 months, my Wife has changed her stance on children from not wanting any (due to childbirth complications the last time around) to now desperately wanting another baby (and has said this would be the last).

I’m very happy and content with the two children we have and have previously been a firm “No” to any more kids - I have a number of reasons, including not feeling like I have adequate housing space for another person, we’ve got >20k debt from a history of poor financial decisions (this was early in on relationship and we’re still paying for it now, literally) and so I don’t like the idea of the financial stress a new baby brings, I work from home and have recently been promoted to a senior position and feel like a new baby being around will be distracting and potentially impact my work performance, and the list goes on.

However - with my Wife’s change in heart has come a change in behaviour and mood. We’ve talked, and argued, and shouted, and not shouted, all because I was a hard “no”. It was a constant point of friction and fall out. I took some quiet reflection time whenever I had the chance and basically weighted up that a marriage is a two person union, and I need to take both sides into account. I felt a hard “No” was unfair of me as that offers no sense of compromise on the matter. From there, I changed my stance to a “the door is slightly open but I have lots of concerns about if we went through with it”. This was initially met gladly, but in time ended up back where we started. I changed again - this time I said let’s review in 12 months. As long as we remain in a good place and we maybe focus on debt for 12 months we can talk again about the possibility. Again, good for a bit then became a problem. I then said six months - I feel like this is my last chance to trim up somewhat and thought that would be a good goal then we’ll think about it. Again, good but now bad.

My Wife is telling me that I need to decide now - and if I don’t, then it’s a “no”. On the face of it, doesn’t seem like too much of a problem - however, my Wife is constantly upset. She’s crying all the time, she’s telling me how depressed she is, she’s giving me a sense that she resents me and just my presence annoys her because I’m taking her last chance away from her. She is telling me that she genuinely feels like she will never be able to get over it and move on, and feels like this is the end for us.

When she’s happier, she tells me all the nice things about why I’d be a good dad again or the nice things a baby will bring, but then when she’s sad she refuses to speak to me on the phone, she’ll turn a lot of what I say into an argument and will look to actively avoid spending time with me. I’m a guilty person by nature, and I feel really bad about the decision I’m making. AITA?
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This post made you the a$ssh0l&.
😉

The cabby was in the original. It's their job to take people when asked. It is like a utility. The power company has to connect your power if you are willing to pay the mandated rate.
 
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Midnighter said:
Wife and I are in Manhattan for a little parents only trip and wanted to ask the AKB for their opinion on this situation: We drove up to Philly from VA and dropped the kids off at their grandparents while we get some R&R in NYC. We take Amtrak from Trenton and upon arriving to the newly refurbished Penn/Moynihan Station we get in the cab queue to go to the hotel. When we get in and tell the cabbie where we’re going and he says ‘That’s only a few blocks from here - you can walk.’ We have four pieces of luggage between us. We push back a bit but he doesn’t want to drive. I take a picture of his license and we get our luggage and walk to the hotel, which is about a 20 minute walk. So, I was going to report him but in doing so you agree to participate in a hearing, and not sure I want to do that. Am I the a**hole here? Or is he?

Also, got to eat at a bucket list restaurant for me - Ivan Ramen in the Lower East Side. Absolutely ridiculous ramen with tremendous umami punch. Best I’ve had. Restaurant is loud but food quality is excellent; reminds me of the tight near hallway like eateries in Shinjuku’s Golden Gai. Afterwards we went to a cocktail bar around the corner which was also very good. NYC may be my favorite city in the world…

If you haven’t seen Ivan’s episode of Netflix’s ‘Chef’s Table’ it’s worth a look; my favorite episode by far.
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Midnighter said:
My partner's and mine as well. Both she and I have become hopelessly addicted to New York and it's been going on for years now.
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Ours as well. She and I have become hopelessly addicted to New York and it's been going on for years now.
 
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laKavosiey-st lion said:
There’s a thing called the Porsche tax. An example is the oil changes cost $400. You just experienced the Manhattan tax.
I paid the Manhattan tax a few years ago with a yellow cab stripe on my bumper, and received a middle finger in the process. Enjoy your trip, I’m going to hit the bands in town app and find you a band to see, hopefully in brooklyn.
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I drove in Manhattan one time ever and a cop on the street called me an *******. Good times! It was worth it for Gov't Mule on New Years at the Beacon!
 
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This forum is great. My wife just ask me if I want chicken or steak. My reply… “I don’t care”.

How boring!!
 
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Midnighter said:
Wife and I are in Manhattan for a little parents only trip and wanted to ask the AKB for their opinion on this situation: We drove up to Philly from VA and dropped the kids off at their grandparents while we get some R&R in NYC. We take Amtrak from Trenton and upon arriving to the newly refurbished Penn/Moynihan Station we get in the cab queue to go to the hotel. When we get in and tell the cabbie where we’re going and he says ‘That’s only a few blocks from here - you can walk.’ We have four pieces of luggage between us. We push back a bit but he doesn’t want to drive. I take a picture of his license and we get our luggage and walk to the hotel, which is about a 20 minute walk. So, I was going to report him but in doing so you agree to participate in a hearing, and not sure I want to do that. Am I the a**hole here? Or is he?

Also, got to eat at a bucket list restaurant for me - Ivan Ramen in the Lower East Side. Absolutely ridiculous ramen with tremendous umami punch. Best I’ve had. Restaurant is loud but food quality is excellent; reminds me of the tight near hallway like eateries in Shinjuku’s Golden Gai. Afterwards we went to a cocktail bar around the corner which was also very good. NYC may be my favorite city in the world…

If you haven’t seen Ivan’s episode of Netflix’s ‘Chef’s Table’ it’s worth a look; my favorite episode by far.

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You and I live in different worlds. Good for both of us.

I dropped the old Benz off for tires the other day and didn't have a ride. I don't think we have taxis, and I don't do uber or lyft, so I just walked the 2 miles up the beach. Was actually nice. Stopped at the Turtle for a draft and continued on my way.
 
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The cab driver is in the wrong:

A taxicab driver is required to drive a passenger to any destination in the five boroughs. You can make a refusal complaint by calling 3-1-1.

They are also notorious for not wanting to take passengers to the outer boroughs.
 
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MtNittany said:
You and I live in different worlds. Good for both of us.

I dropped the old Benz off for tires the other day and didn't have a ride. I don't think we have taxis, and I don't do uber or lyft, so I just walked the 2 miles up the beach. Was actually nice. Stopped at the Turtle for a draft and continued on my way.
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Haha...the old convenient walk and then stop for "a beer". Well played.
 
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Midnighter said:
Wife and I are in Manhattan for a little parents only trip and wanted to ask the AKB for their opinion on this situation: We drove up to Philly from VA and dropped the kids off at their grandparents while we get some R&R in NYC. We take Amtrak from Trenton and upon arriving to the newly refurbished Penn/Moynihan Station we get in the cab queue to go to the hotel. When we get in and tell the cabbie where we’re going and he says ‘That’s only a few blocks from here - you can walk.’ We have four pieces of luggage between us. We push back a bit but he doesn’t want to drive. I take a picture of his license and we get our luggage and walk to the hotel, which is about a 20 minute walk. So, I was going to report him but in doing so you agree to participate in a hearing, and not sure I want to do that. Am I the a**hole here? Or is he?

Also, got to eat at a bucket list restaurant for me - Ivan Ramen in the Lower East Side. Absolutely ridiculous ramen with tremendous umami punch. Best I’ve had. Restaurant is loud but food quality is excellent; reminds me of the tight near hallway like eateries in Shinjuku’s Golden Gai. Afterwards we went to a cocktail bar around the corner which was also very good. NYC may be my favorite city in the world…

If you haven’t seen Ivan’s episode of Netflix’s ‘Chef’s Table’ it’s worth a look; my favorite episode by far.

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I was just in Moynihan last week. I almost missed my train home because I was enjoying my time in the new food court/ bar area.
 
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He’s the a-hole, but you and your wife lost by having to make that walk. When he pushed back, I’d have offered him $20 extra to take you. NYC’s universal language is cash. It beats lugging bags through that part of the city. Blech.
 
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laKavosiey-st lion said:
people are insane, can you even imagine being that out of step with your moms?
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O think it was his wife not his Mom :)
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He’s the a-hole, but you and your wife lost by having to make that walk. When he pushed back, I’d have offered him $20 extra to take you. NYC’s universal language is cash. It beats lugging bags through that part of the city. Blech.
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I have had cabs refuse to take me to Penn in the later afternoon from lower manhatten because is was close to when they turn over the cab to the next driver - PITA.
 
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MtNittany said:
You and I live in different worlds. Good for both of us.

I dropped the old Benz off for tires the other day and didn't have a ride. I don't think we have taxis, and I don't do uber or lyft, so I just walked the 2 miles up the beach. Was actually nice. Stopped at the Turtle for a draft and continued on my way.
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Picking up my Benz this morning and it is getting ... new tires. No walking on the beach for me though. I have to get to Memorial Hospital in FLL for an installation in the O.R.
 
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