If you go with contestant #1, you can look forward to spending some time with contestant #2 eventually. If you start with contestant #2, prepare for the inevitable day you have contestant #3, whose azz is two ax handles across. I'm older than most on here. Trust me, that train only runs one direction.
I'm not sure I agree with this. Been married 33+ years and my wife is within 10 pounds of when I married her. Not every woman lets themselves go to pot, although probably more than half do (and probably a higher percentage of guys do). Myself, I'm within about 18 lbs of when I got married but some of that undoubtedly is because I got married in my early 20s and have filled out somewhat with age, weight training, etc. OK, I could be skinnier but I've kept it together a lot better than most and you can still see some of my abs vs a big-*** belly.
Living in CO, I see a lot of women who are very active physically and therefore have long skinny arms and legs and I just don't find that look attractive. I really like a few curves even if they're a bit TOO curvy for some. Certainly see a lot of 40+ YOs who look great, keeping themselves in great shape.