Advice - Wedding

[Kooky Kats_anon]

October FTW

Just elope. Southern weddings suck. You get cheap ******** whose 'gift' doesn't cover the plate of good you just served him/her. Not to mention you typically don't get a stockpile of cash envelopes as you do up here customarily filed at Yankee weddings. I swear it was painful writing 'thank you' cards to the douchebags who bought the least expensive items on the registry... As if you don't realize what they paid.

I'm not sure if it's PC, but if on the invitation you put "cash presents only" - then do it. If you feel uncomfortable doing something like that, be prepared to losing your ***.

Once again, elope. Take every dime budgeted and spend it on your bride at a killer honeymoon. Screw everybody else, as they don't matter.

 

[Big Blue 1977]

Most weddings are overpriced, too long, and a general inconvenience for most of the guests. Find a way to do it with class, simplicity, and brevity. Ditch the church, first of all. Book a venue nice enough for everything. Don't serve a full meal. Have it at an in between time and serve something light, but impressive. Most wedding dinners are mediocre even when good. Why do this? Open bars are also a waste of money and are really kind of tacky unless you're at a nice hotel. Buy a ton of champagne and be done with it. Everyone likes champagne. Avoid a wedding planner, but look into a "day of coordinator." Make your own clothes.

 

[UKGrad93]

Originally posted by JumperJack:
Go get married in the Caribbean. Come back and have a reception. Cut your costs and your stress. Post her often. Profit.

I can't beleive it took this long, but shouldn't the OP post some pics of the bride to be before we make these judgments about how much to spend on the wedding?

And September is a good month. Almost perfect weather.
This post was edited on 3/6 10:10 AM by UKGrad93

 

[DSmith21]

Do not go into debt to throw a party. That is essentially what a big reception is. The cost of the wedding and reception should really be up to the bride and her family assuming this is her first marriage. If they can't afford her dream wedding, she should have to scale back. If she doesn't learn to live within her means, you are headed to divorce eventually anyway.

If you have some extra money that you are willing to kick in for a bigger wedding, then feel free to do so. Communicate your financial constraints to her. Keep in mind that the money is much better spent on a place for you and your wife to live than on a wedding.

 

[Twindaddy2003+1]

My first wedding was 2500 dollars and my divorce was 25,000 dollars. And hard to believe but I am about to do it all over again years after I swore I never would get married again. Of course this time I am thinking destination wedding with a reception when we get back.

 

[55wildcat]

 

[trueblujr]

If you've already been living together for 3 years, then you've likely been sharing most things, foo, bill, finances, bed, etc. your basically pretending to be married. What's going to change after the wedding other than the legal obligations? My point here is if your already going through the motions of being married, why wait and indulge on a ceremony? Go get a Justice of the Peace and make it legal, then spend the money on throwing a big party and honeymoon.

 

[anon_l8pbkn96tg3j6]

Just constantly ask "Are we doing this for us or our guests?" The retarded costs add up when you try to impress people. Remember you aren't a Kardashian, and the people who love you all are going to have a good time regardless.

 

[mashburned]

OP don't listen to them. Sounds like you got yourself a sweetheart princess with the soul of an angel. I think its cool she let you live with her before you were even married. Shows that she is progressive and probably feisty in bed. Also very cool that she let you pay for it. Shows she trusts you and that she's your pretty little princess. Women *love* that. And now you get to buy her a wedding!! Very, very special! Also shows her progressive side again as she's not being an old fashioned hag and letting her parents pay for the wedding. Good girl. Keep showering her with everything she ever wanted and you'll be filming her whole she F's the pool boy in no time. That's the pinnacle of love, imo. A girl so progressive and secure in her love for you that she is willing to let another man inside of her just to show you that silly physical desires are not love. Nothing says love more than $$$$. Don't forget that when Enrique is putting it in her b-hole. Enjoy.

 

[Dennis Reynolds]

Originally posted by Big Blue 1977:
Open bars are also a waste of money and are really kind of tacky unless you're at a nice hotel.

I've seen a lot of stupid things written on the Paddock, but this is by FAR the most stupid. Open bars are the ONLY thing tolerable about weddings.

Though based on the 'make your own clothes' comment the whole post may have been a mock, and if so, good work.

 

[UKserialkiller]

Originally posted by Big Blue 1977:
Open bars are also a waste of money and are really kind of tacky unless you're at a nice hotel.

Alcohol should just be free at weddings. It's an opportunity to drink as much as possible on someone else's dime. If you can't afford free alcohol, then you shouldn't be getting married.

 

[CatDaddy4daWin]

Originally posted by Kooky Kats:

I'm not sure if it's PC, but if on the invitation you put "cash presents only" - then do it. If you feel uncomfortable doing something like that, be prepared to losing your ***.

This is kinda what we're doing. Instead of a registry we just a site where you can put money towards our kitchen. We've already got pretty much everything we need but our kitchen hasn't been updated since the 1960s.

 

[colleenweiss]

I'm looking for advice on wedding planning, my brother is getting married as he stays out of the town its my duty to plan his wedding. My friend suggested me to opt catering services from official site that will help us in planning a successful wedding. What are your thought about wedding planners. Did you take help of professionals in planning the wedding?

 

[cricket3]

Bumping a 2 year old thread to give us a link to check out? Not sketchy at all.

 

[BlueVelvetFog]

Bumping a 2 year old thread to give us a link to check out? Not sketchy at all.

Wonder how the OPs divorce is going.

 

[Get Buckets]

Wonder how the OPs divorce is going.

Apparently his wife doesn't let him post here anymore.

 

[ZakkW]

Need to see pics of colleenweiss before offering advice on wedding planning

 

[JohnBlue]

Metcalfe_linbacker45 was last seen: Dec 15, 2015

 

[throatpoker]

elope and get a prenup

 

[legalbeagle123]

Keep your anniversary date in mind. You don't want to be bothered by that crap every year at the same time some major sporting event is going on. Another reason why early June is the best date. All you gotta do is avoid the Belmont and US Open weekends.

 

[Hank Camacho]

Keep your anniversary date in mind. You don't want to be bothered by that crap every year at the same time some major sporting event is going on. Another reason why early June is the best date. All you gotta do is avoid the Belmont and US Open weekends.

If you get married from September through mid-April, you're an *******.

*Unless it is on a Friday night, which is the smart move anyway.

 

[mdlUK.1]

If you don't post her often now, just wait til you get married.

[roll]

 

[august-west]

You guise do realize the OP is from 2015. A tad late on the advise.

 

[Metcalfe_linbacker45]

Actually I usually only read and never post. Hell I had to reset my password because I had no idea what it is.

Having said that I will let you all know we are doing great and had our first little one who turns 6 months old this month.

We had our wedding at the Arling in Franklin, KY on Kenny Perry Golf Course and it was best thing we did because we caught them when they first started doing weddings and was able to get the venue with tables and chairs and decorations for cheap. Of course now they are booked every weekend and probably raises prices.
We looked at other places without tables and chairs and it was dumb the prices they threw out and like someone said in another thread when you go to rent tables and chairs never mention wedding because if they tell you 10 a chair if you mention wedding it goes straight to 25 a chair.

The best part about The Arling is the woman there is a wedding planner and you get her services included. My wife and I didn't have to worry about a single thing because she took care of it. Going to a wedding next weekend who doesn't have a planner and they still don't know how they are going to do anything. The best ROI for our money was the wedding planner because we didn't have to worry about a thing.