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Well Kevin I would say drinking everyday after losing a family member sounds like depression to me that you're trying to medicate with alcohol which will probably make things worse and then make you drink more. The fact that you're asking about it is a good sign though and I would definitely recommend taking a couple weeks off from drinking. If you find that more difficult than you anticipated I would recommend seeing someone like a psychologist or some such and get better and more formal help.
Drink Friday and Saturday night, then again on Wednesday for "Wine Down Wednesday" but I don't like wine so whatever. Usually at least 6 each time. Had about 20 Saturday in the span of 14 hours.
Would you call that "too much?"
I always considered addiction something you felt like you had to have all the time, not just casually or on set days.
Would you call that "too much?"
I always considered addiction something you felt like you had to have all the time, not just casually or on set days.
A law firm I worked for shortly out of law school had a partner who drank more than anyone I ever knew. Every day after work he'd go to the bar of a local restaurant and have at least 8-10. And never seemed to phase him.
The 2 years I was there I only saw one day he didn't drink. It was one day in the middle of a week long trial in Prestonsburg. Thought he was sick. LOL.
The 2 years I was there I only saw one day he didn't drink. It was one day in the middle of a week long trial in Prestonsburg. Thought he was sick. LOL.
Kev. Sorry to hear about your losses. But but alcohol is lightweight. Heroin is where you need to be.
Of all the crazy posts I've seen on the Paddock, this one is possibly the most shocking. I never expected to see a serious, thoughtful reply.
I understand where you are coming from. I was 21 when dad passed away. I turned to alcohol for relief. I was up to about 15 beers + a day for a couple of years. My son literally saved my life. If he wasn't born, I would have prolly drank myself to death. You have to find something to fill that void in your life. I love drinking beer but you have to do it in moderation. It is a very jealous mistress and if you don't control it, it will slowly take everything from you. It's hard man but if I can do it anybody can. Best of luck to you man.
I had to stop, I was getting nagged about it all the time. My wife was passive aggressive about it too. She would be like "let me make you a drink", then after two drinks and I make a third, it was "are you having another one???" Then she got the kids riding my *** about it since she didn't want to do it directly. Then they were watching the show Intervention and it all went downhill from there. It took all the fun out of drinking so I just quit. I loved me some Buffalo Trace. I figure after about 5 more years and the kids get a little older, I can pick it up again.
Yeah, you're probably right.
I'm going to give that a shot tomorrow.
Nothing to lose.
It's not what she would want, Kev69. And she always wanted what's best for you. Time heals all wounds. Six packs are not support groups. I drink most days and mostly in moderation. I remember reading your post that morning. She taught you right from wrong and now you hafta navigate without her. Take care of yourself and be there for loved ones who share in your loss.
Thanks Ron.
I'm probably depressed, but I guess that's understandable.
I'll get my act together again soon.
I recently read what the difference is between a drinker and an alcoholic: A person that likes drinking knows what time the liquor store closes. An alcoholic knows what time it opens.
I think it's pretty accurate.
Hope you find a better way to handle your loss.
I think it's pretty accurate.
Hope you find a better way to handle your loss.
Dad was diagnosed with cancer and they gave him a year. Told him to do whatever he enjoyed. He said he wanted to sit around the fire and drink beer. Every Friday for over a year we spent the night with dad, had a fire, drank beer, listened to music, planned his funeral, cried and laughed. Dad died June 22nd. We had a fire and drank beer that night.
All I can state is, you can do it. It is more than understandable with what you are going through. I have been there twice, three times actually, when I was in the Army home on leave due to an injury and my Grandpa died. Tried to resuscitate him (Back then I knew what I was doing.) but, it was his time. Take solace in that. When it is your time there is nothing you can do about it. You were given a life....live it to the best of your ability.
Are these the first deaths of loved ones that you've experienced? If so, then you'll probably recover well. When my Dad died I went off my rocker for a while. I just couldn't imagine life without him. Slowly, though, I came to realize that life goes on. His life ended but mine didn't.
It'll get better. It always does.
I drink more than I even care about. Sometimes I struggle more days than most. But, it's also took a lot away from me, I was married to a beautiful wife and had kids, a home, the American dream. And, woke up one day with it gone. Alcohol took my life from me, but, I choose to do it so nobody is to blame but me. Lost my grandmother, and 3 weeks to the day I lost my father, on her birthday. Godspeed man.. it's a hell of a road
Very sorry to hear this.
I wish you all the best in your recovery.
I guess I'm a little different. I have always been a drinker, but usually just on the weekend. I'm never going to give up my wine and beer, but I don't drink hard liquor. My problem, especially since my beloved Mom passed away, is I have gone from drinking on Friday, Saturday, and Sundays, which I've done since I was 19, to drinking every day.
Look, I think this numbness, and feeling lost and depressed, and wondering if it's even worth getting up and trying to be productive, will pass eventually.
Some of you have told me that you've lost many family members, and that you're coping fine. I find that encouraging, and hope I can get to that point soon.
I have actually thought about this.
I have never smoked, but the more I read about the benefits of pot, the more I'm intrigued.
Hi Funky.
I don't have a twitter account, but I really appreciate the offer to talk.
It's just hard to fathom that my Mom is gone. She was an inspiration to me, not to mention how much fun she was to be around. I will man up eventually, but right now I'm just totally numb and borderline lifeless.
I lost everything I had.. I hammer them back and try to beat my moms ole mans *** daily.. **** ain't fun. Life shouldn't be that way
Edit: He drinks a 30 pack a day and she supplies him
Edit: He drinks a 30 pack a day and she supplies him
Being serous. I'm not a "pot head " but MJ has a slew of benefits . Depression, anxiety being on of them .
He's a complete and total POS.. my father was a Vietnam Vet.. he died, and this SOB comes in and reaps the benefits from my dad.
Used to drink quite a bit. Probably 4 times a week in my early/mid 20s.
Started smoking weed.
Don't drink. No more add medicine. No more anxiety pills. It's not a miracle drug but it's damn close. I never intended to stop drinking it just kinda happened.
Started smoking weed.
Don't drink. No more add medicine. No more anxiety pills. It's not a miracle drug but it's damn close. I never intended to stop drinking it just kinda happened.