Are we becoming more rude as a society?

gamecockcat

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This is one of my personal pet peeves: you invite a list of friends to your house for a party. You're providing everything. You send out an invitation and ask for an RSVP. You're unusual if more than 25% even bother RSVP'ing. Some show up unannounced. Some say 'yes' then don't show (and NEVER let you know beforehand or why afterwards). WTF? I'm providing all the food and drinks and you can't be bothered to show me the courtesy and let me know if you're attending?

In this day and age, is it that difficult to call or text someone and say, 'Sorry, something came up and I can't make it'?

Or, you call up a friend and set up a lunch. You set a time, let's say, noon. You arrive at 11:55 and wait and wait and wait. 12:45 your friend blows in, phone in ear. No apology, no explanation, nothing.

That kind of sh$t happens all the time to me and it drives me bananas. Common courtesy is evidently a dying attribute.

And it seems to be in all other facets of our lives: driving on the highway, attending a concert or ballgame, watching a movie, etc. Is it worse now or am I just noticing it?
 

jtrue28

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There's no way I'm waiting 50 minutes for my "friend" to show up for lunch. Either text, call, or eat and leave. Touch him.
 
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argubs2

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OP goes through all that trouble to bedazzle and glitter the invitations.....I'm not sure why you guys aren't more sympathetic.

That's a lot of work for people to not even acknowledge.
 

LordEgg_rivals16573

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OP goes through all that trouble to bedazzle and glitter the invitations.....I'm not sure why you guys aren't more sympathetic.

That's a lot of work for people to not even acknowledge.

If they haven't known the struggle, they can't appreciate it.
 

cball225

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People are busy and have there own thing going on. It's hard to commit to frivolous things sometimes.
 

Tskware

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This is one of my personal pet peeves: you invite a list of friends to your house for a party. You're providing everything. You send out an invitation and ask for an RSVP. You're unusual if more than 25% even bother RSVP'ing. Some show up unannounced. Some say 'yes' then don't show (and NEVER let you know beforehand or why afterwards). WTF? I'm providing all the food and drinks and you can't be bothered to show me the courtesy and let me know if you're attending?

In this day and age, is it that difficult to call or text someone and say, 'Sorry, something came up and I can't make it'?

Or, you call up a friend and set up a lunch. You set a time, let's say, noon. You arrive at 11:55 and wait and wait and wait. 12:45 your friend blows in, phone in ear. No apology, no explanation, nothing.

That kind of sh$t happens all the time to me and it drives me bananas. Common courtesy is evidently a dying attribute.

And it seems to be in all other facets of our lives: driving on the highway, attending a concert or ballgame, watching a movie, etc. Is it worse now or am I just noticing it?

Corollary to this is the friends that are always saying "sure, we will be there" and constantly no show. We have a couple we used to hang with all the time, and I told my wife to simply quit asking them to join us when a group of us head out to dinner or for a backyard cookout. Like some other posters said, they are either (A) not so politely letting us know they have better things to do these days; or (B) have become rude as they have gotten older.

The husband still calls me once a year or so when he is looking for free UK football tickets for a good home game, like Louisville or Florida, so at least he has not completely forgotten me. :rolleyes:
 

KingOfBBN

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Like Jason said, ****** friends. However, if anyone deals or works with the public, you do notice a huge trend of total disregard for anyone else and dickheads filled with entitlement. It is amazing how people will talk to a total stranger.

My dream is to find some Walter White money buried somewhere, build a mega mansion away from everyone so I never have to talk or work with the public and can simply just hang out with family and friends..not the ****** ones though like the Op's.
 

ukalumni00

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sounds to me like you just have ****** friends.


Bingo. Things happen but by and large folks who treat you that way are telling you in a round about way you are not important to them so why should you continue wasting your time, energy, and stress on them? They are not your "friends". I call those people the "casual passerby friends". Not worth the time or effort.
 

Lord_Crow

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This is one of my personal pet peeves: you invite a list of friends to your house for a party. You're providing everything. You send out an invitation and ask for an RSVP. You're unusual if more than 25% even bother RSVP'ing. Some show up unannounced. Some say 'yes' then don't show (and NEVER let you know beforehand or why afterwards). WTF? I'm providing all the food and drinks and you can't be bothered to show me the courtesy and let me know if you're attending?

In this day and age, is it that difficult to call or text someone and say, 'Sorry, something came up and I can't make it'?

Or, you call up a friend and set up a lunch. You set a time, let's say, noon. You arrive at 11:55 and wait and wait and wait. 12:45 your friend blows in, phone in ear. No apology, no explanation, nothing.

That kind of sh$t happens all the time to me and it drives me bananas. Common courtesy is evidently a dying attribute.

And it seems to be in all other facets of our lives: driving on the highway, attending a concert or ballgame, watching a movie, etc. Is it worse now or am I just noticing it?

I hate it when some clown you hardly know goes all Miss Manners and sends you a formal invitation to some half-assed party that nobody is going to bother attending then acts like an assclown because you didn't reply or "RSVP" or send a "thank you" note to the little fruity debutante that throws the lamest parties on earth. Sorry I missed "pin the tail on the donkey" there, buddy. I'm sure it was a hoot.
 

liveblue92

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That kind of s**t happens all the time.

Don't sweat it. Just bring, and hide, your own booze. Keep to yourself and share with the shorties only.

Only share with the bitches in the living room, getting it on, that ain't leaving til 6 in the moan'n.
 

akers65

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I didn't get any RSVP's, STD's, VD's or anything to respond too, so there... Don't blame me.

Maybe you need new friends, there's a guy asking for new ones in another thread, maybe you should RSVP him. He
just recently came out of the closet.


I just knew this was going to be a fun thread, thanks op
 
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You're kidding? Which thread? I got to see this. It's not everyday someone comes out on the Paddock.
Poor guy.I wonder why he chose to do it here?
 

akers65

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You're kidding? Which thread? I got to see this. It's not everyday someone comes out on the Paddock.
Poor guy.I wonder why he chose to do it here?
Likely because of the passionate and caring people who post on this forum.