DADYERO

[krazykats]

So old school **** works still!

Funny thing is, anyone who belittles paying $300 to fix the problem has no clue! None! $300? I blew that on UK barely beating MSU so to get some sleep that is a deal!

We totally messed up and the wife let our dudes sleep in bed with her and nurse off her. Of course I didn't care at the time and just slept in another bed. They are 6/4 now and have been in their bed now for 2 years I guess so whatever works should be the motto!

 

[joeyrupption]

I wasn't belittling Anth for trading $300 for sleep, I was just suggesting to check out the book first.

*I was throwing in a little joke that Anth would rather pay $300 than read a book. But I know Anth is a reader and I was just kidding.

Sidenote: Nobody reads anymore. It's a shame.

 

[krazykats]

Wasn't saying you or anyone: He made hint to the fact that someone may though, which is only a person who doesn't know.

 

[joeyrupption]

Wasn't saying you or anyone: He made hint to the fact that someone may though, which is only a person who doesn't know.

I just wanted to clarify for the good of the Safe Space™ of DADYERO.

 

[krazykats]

So my wife puts me in control of baby name for a little girl, if it's a little girl which we find out in 3 weeks. She named the boys(not really) so gave me girl naming rights. At the time I told her no thanks I will mess it up and you'll hate it forever. Just wanted her to do it really. However I got guilt tripped with "what you don't care, you don't want this baby" etc etc.

Needless to say I agree. Now everyday since Xmas I'm asked what we will call our little girl that we don't know is a girl yet.

Just needed to write this out and read it in a few weeks to remind me the day before to have a name picked out.

/sorry fellas

 

[bradyjames_rivals]

Let's start with names you shouldn't call her.

Jasmine and Anastasia

 

[krazykats]

Well I have been fond of every girl I called that so yea, great start!

 

[anthonys735]

WS has researched and read every piece of baby schedule/sleep advice the intraweb has to offer. I've read a ton as well. Probably a little too much, leading to the confusion and overload. On top of fatigue.

Someone please just tell me exactly what to do, I can't think.

 

[buckethead1978]

I feel for you. My daughter was a terrible sleeper. I'm talking waking up multiple times for 13 months. Sleep deprivation is no joke.

I never would have done it but some of those nights I could see why someone with a temper or less education would shake a baby. It is horrible.

Sucky part is that I knew what to do (tough love) but since my wife handled all the nightly feeding (I had to get up and work, she didn't) and she changed diapers, then I just let her do it her way.

 

[Crankdatmustard_rivals66299]

So last night kind of started my own little " sleep train" before I start any program. Feed her a bottle about 8:15. Went to her room with a little Twinkle Little Star until her eyes were ALMOST closed. Laid her down and patted her butt and back for a bout 1 min and off she was.

About midnight she was awake standing in her crib. I laid her back down and patted her again and to my surprise she fell back to sleep within 5 min.

At 3am she again was standing in the crib, repeated the same steps and again was asleep in less than 5 min.

Hoping it is baby steps to where she is slowly learning to that it is sleep time and to sooth and go back on her own. First time ever that haven't given her a feeding during the night.

If it doesn't it work then we are on to the "sleep programs"

ray:

 

[Wodie sloot]

Crank, how old is your girl again? 8 or 9 months? As long as she is healthy and gaining weight properly, she should be old enough to go without a feeding overnight, just make sure she is getting the ounces some other time during the day.

 

[Crankdatmustard_rivals66299]

She is 7 months and change.

 

[west-ky-wildcat]

Sucky part is that I knew what to do (tough love) but since my wife handled all the nightly feeding (I had to get up and work, she didn't) and she changed diapers, then I just let her do it her way.

Nailed it, and I have told myself this many times through the first year. I know what to do because I am not the one sleep deprived and covered in baby ****. I learned early on I was faced with a choice. I had to either get up and help or shut the hell up and let her do it her way.

 

[buckethead1978]

It is all operant conditioning when the kids are little.

 

[CatsFanGG24]

Crank, how old is your girl again? 8 or 9 months? As long as she is healthy and gaining weight properly, she should be old enough to go without a feeding overnight, just make sure she is getting the ounces some other time during the day.

How old is your girl?

 

[krazykats]

We mixed milk with the baby rice to give the boys a little more filling before bed. That helped.

For the anniversary on Sunday I got the wife the 4D ultrasound today which they also can tell what the baby is before the doctor ultrasound. So we are having boy #3!

Feel blessed!

 

[Kaizer Sosay]

Anyone one else have issues making their kids stay in bed at bed time? I'll give my boys a bath, brush hair/teeth/read story and lights out. Then they'll usually spend the next hour looking for every damn reason imaginable to come downstairs. Makes me envious of you guys that can just plop your little boogers in a crib and bounce.

First time poster…part time thread scanner...full time daddy.

I have a 7 year old and a 10 year old. Both girls. Simply put…there have to be consequences. Of course this works for any behavior you deem unacceptable but it also works for bedtime at that age. But don't make the consequences unreasonable. Pick something they value but not something you know you won't take away. Keep it simple and make sure you stick to it. Do use stuff like "loss of all tech privileges/TV time tomorrow"…don't use something like "no baseball game tomorrow".

This very simple plan worked wonders for us especially early on in the process. If they know there are consequences then they are less likely to keep getting out of bed. They will still do it from time to time…but it will quickly cut down on the frequency…and then eventually it will virtually be a non-factor. But if you just keep putting them back to bed every time they get up without any real consequences then you are just enabling their behavior.

Also, my girls love to read books. So we often times have a "wind down" time where, after bath time, brushing teeth, etc…, they get 10-15 minutes (sometimes longer but my wife or I always set the time) to read on their own while in bed before lights out. This is after prayers and after i tuck them in. It is then their responsibility to turn out the lamp and stay in bed. Again, there are consequences if the lights aren't out on time. This has worked very well for us.

Good luck.

 

[-LEK-]

We mixed milk with the baby rice to give the boys a little more filling before bed. That helped.

For the anniversary on Sunday I got the wife the 4D ultrasound today which they also can tell what the baby is before the doctor ultrasound. So we are having boy #3!

Feel blessed!

Grats. Good stuff.

We did rice milk for first and worked. Not so much second kid. He takes a sippy before bed and he is good.

Obviously, each kid is different, so saying one at 8 months should not need food is touching stupid as hell.

 

[anthonys735]

Good post

 

[Crankdatmustard_rivals66299]

Night #2 update:

Bottle and Twinkle to get her down about 8:30. Few pats on the rear and out cold. Slept until 3:00am. Woke up. Had her pretty much back asleep but decided to change her diaper as she smelled like a 80 year old man laying in piss. Back down until about 6:00am. took about 15 min to get her back to sleep but did not pick her up, basically rearranged her blankets and patted for 1 min. Stopped, waited a few min then another pat.

Left to come in to work at 6:45 and was still down. Hoping by day five of my experiment she is sleeping through the night!

 

[Wodie sloot]

How's it going, crankdat?

 

[Crankdatmustard_rivals66299]

Slept from 8:30 until 1 last night. Changed diaper and put back down and she slept until 7:30.

And just my luck after putting her back down at 1 I couldn't fall back asleep myself

 

[Wodie sloot]

Yup, that seems to be the way it goes for a while. I had the hardest time falling back asleep in the middle of the night. But I'm good at it now, didn't take too long for it to fall back in place.

 

[Crankdatmustard_rivals66299]

If I would just relax I probably wouldn't have a problem, but when I dont fall back within 5 min I grab my phone and then it is over.

 

[argubs2]

 

[argubs2]

Get them. My kids will sit for an hour or even two, yes an hour or even two, and build random structures with these things.

Same thing and also wonderful....

 

[Crankdatmustard_rivals66299]

Baby is on "her" schedule now and that is just fine with me. Goes down at 8is and sleeps until between 4 and 4:30. Has a bottle and is back down immediately until around 7:30.

Sleep is good now! [thumb2]


She LOVES these things

 

[joeyrupption]

I grab my phone and then it is over.

Have you tried an e-reader?

A phone will wake me right up, but I find that when I read my Kindle, it can really knock me out. After a few minutes, I feel my eyes darting across the entire page, then feel like I was hit with a tranq dart and have just enough time to put it on the nightstand.

Our kid turned into carb fiend at dinner last night. He was fine with his cheese, eggs, and peas earlier in the day. But at night, it was all puffs & toast with peanut butter.

At one point I put down a piece of cheese in the middle of what had been a puff procession. He reached for it, then hesitated and looked up as if to say, "You think this is a game, mf-er?"

 

[Wodie sloot]

G is eating purées now. I think his favorites are banana and avocado, but he likes pears and sweet potatoes too. Butternut squash gave him a rash on his face (or is it from teething?) and he hates peas. I'm trying to decide what to introduce next. It's awesome watching how quick they learn. He was drinking water out of a regular cup tonight that I held for him.

Sleep is going great still overnight. He's at about 8p-7:15a. Naps are still not quite where they need to be, but it's getting better.

And he's crawling by scooting with his arms. And rolling everywhere. Baby proofing is underway.

 

[Wodie sloot]

Oh and I looked at getting those Magnatiles for my nephews but they are expensive as ****. I guess it's worth it though if it entertains them that long, especially without a screen.

 

[anthonys735]

DAD being the key word here.

 

[joeyrupption]

My wife decided that our guy, J, has given up on purees, so now she is using the purees to make homemade "puffs," with egg whites, etc., to trick him into eating them.

I think he was just bored with the spoon feeding because he was having a lot of fun picking things up.

But for now we're #ALLIN on puffs for a week or so.

We're also dipping the extra slippery fruit bits in sticky cereal so he can pick them up easier.

 

[neilborders]

Our girl turns 6 months old tomorrow. Crazy how fast this goes. Sleeps good, going down between 7:30-8:30p and sleeping until 5:30-6:30a. HATES naps though, can sometimes go all day on two 20 minute power naps. I guess it's no wonder she sleeps like a rock at night.

She's been eating oatmeal cereal for a while and likes it. But we gave her sweet potatoes for the first timel and she hated it. Gagged until she eventually puked on momma :joy:

 

[Crankdatmustard_rivals66299]

Our little one loves the butternut squash and also the Mango's. Literally goes nuts for the mango's.

She has been crawling since xmas and it more concerned now with pulling up on EVERYTHING.

We let her play with a roll the other night at dinner and you would have thought that thing was a t bone. Our little one also is a cat napper. When we get the report paper from day care she sleeps about 90 min during a 8 hour period. [laughing]

 

[-LEK-]

Our first kid got all the home made food, ninja blender, organic milk, set routine, X amount of hours doing this, no fast food. no tv...etc.

Second kid, mix of stuff at start, but fast food creep, more tv, more sugar, less attention to the smaller details.bl

I've heard third and up is just a zoo.

Didn't realize how easy and pampered first kid was until we had second. Then it becomes a battle.

 

[Wodie sloot]

Welcome to Dadyero, @80proof. You should post or at least read this thread. It at least helps pass the time.

 

[anthonys735]

Little man is crawling, and pulling himself up into standing . Ruh Roh.

 

[Crankdatmustard_rivals66299]

Our little one is regressing with sleep. Has no problem going to sleep, but wakes up about every hour or so. We pick her up and lay her back down or walk her for 30 seconds and she is back asleep. But man, she just can't seem to stay asleep at night.

And don't get me started on naps. Last week she was a day care for 8.5 hours and slept 20 min.

last night :

8:00 until 8:44

8:50 until 10

10 until 12:30

12:30 until 2

2 until 6

 

[Rex Kwon Do]

Our first kid got all the home made food, ninja blender, organic milk, set routine, X amount of hours doing this, no fast food. no tv...etc.

Second kid, mix of stuff at start, but fast food creep, more tv, more sugar, less attention to the smaller details.bl

I've heard third and up is just a zoo.

Didn't realize how easy and pampered first kid was until we had second. Then it becomes a battle.

Very true....have three and all of the above is the case. I think the 2nd and 3rd experienced a more realistic kid/parent situation....I mean, the stuff you do for the first is overkill in hindsight and in no way can you live up to.

Frankly the hardest thing with 3, to me, is not shafting the middle kid. Our first and third are incredibly demanding of attention and I have to consciously work to make sure my middle doesn't get slighted...weird because he is by far the most like me. He acts a fool sometimes accordingly because the other two are higher maintenance. Just something we've had a struggle with on the road of dadyero.

 

[anthonys735]

Our little one is regressing with sleep. Has no problem going to sleep, but wakes up about every hour or so. We pick her up and lay her back down or walk her for 30 seconds and she is back asleep. But man, she just can't seem to stay asleep at night.

And don't get me started on naps. Last week she was a day care for 8.5 hours and slept 20 min.

last night :

8:00 until 8:44

8:50 until 10

10 until 12:30

12:30 until 2

2 until 6

You want that contact info for the sleep lady? Telling you buddy, G has been a machine since then. I'd say he's had 3 rough nights in the past 32 days and he still just puts himself back to sleep. Last night 7:45p-7:25a. Best $300 I've ever spent. I'd be willing to be the naps being messed up during the day is the night time issue.