Dating single parents...
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How olds the kid? And are they hot?
It's a real thing man with kids being home till they're 45 and all the step daddy lust on the internet. You'd be crazy to turn down a hot lady with a hot legal aged daughter.
My issue was never the kid.. always the mom. You're each on whole different levels of life and finding the balance is tough. Not to mention, 97% of single moms are trash anyways. Yeah, it's fun to start.. but there's a reason she's a single parent, and it's rare that the father passed away..
Rule #1: don't put your D in crazy..
Most single moms are crazy. Tread lightly.
Most single moms are crazy. Tread lightly.
Most single milfs are looking to jump back up on the ole pogo stick. As long as yours is functional they could care less since most know a guy doesn't want the extra baggage. Honestly chicks with kids put out quite nicely. I've had the privilege of that experience and some were better than chicks who didn't have kids. Some have been deprived so long rocky Dennis will do
lol enough to get off since they some have been deprived due to weight gain and low self esteem
If there is a kid, there may also be a father lurking who is still involved in the kid's life. If either the mom or dad of that kid seems a bit crazy, its not worth it. Also the kid is probably going to hate you for no good reason. Best to go for "friends with benefits" with the mom provided that the sex is above average. Otherwise, no touch.
Glad my Dad didn't feel the same way about my mom . . . or this post would be non existent.
My last rodeo with a single mom wanted me to go to the kid's 2nd birthday a month after we met.. and the deadbeat dad was going to be there..
Pulled that ripcord lightning quick.
Pulled that ripcord lightning quick.
Yeah when it comes to single moms your best bet is to make sure the dad walked out and has no contact with his seed. If he is involved, prepare to be caught in that **** storm and always checks your brake lines. When I've dated a girl with kids I ask in a subtle way where is the father. If the answer is not in picture, proceed as you will be laid in two weeks or less
That would be awkward as hell im sure you would of met the parents as well
Yeah, the writing was on the wall.. and remember above how I said the #1 rule is "Don't put your D in crazy"? yeah, I follow that like 19% of the time.
That girl went on to get knocked up by another deadbeat like 5 months later. It would have ruined my life.
Lol good call my man. If I found the right girl and she had one kid two at most by the same dude I would consider her marriage material as long as the ex was out of the picture or a non psycho path. I met up with a girl one time for dinner, and I got to the restaurant and her whole family was there when it was supposed to be me and her. Talk about awkward. They paid for my meal and that was the end of that fiasco. I'm in my mid 30s I'm plenty young enough to go out and find the right girl but I'm not going to just pick any girl to have kids with. Stay far away from the ones that demand to meet you days after talking to them. They are sucubuses and are just looking for a dude that will take care of them and their kids.
Yes, it's a bang and go situation. NEVER date a single mom whose kids are still at home/under age 18 - that's nuts. IMO.
This topic came up at lunch..
Basically, we're young enough to not have to settle for crazy, for now. But when you hit them 40's, it's slim pickings. A friend of mine was annoyed that I wouldn't take a Bumble girl out on a date because to me, I couldn't tell if she was fat or not. Sorry, I'm 30 with a good job, fit, funny and have a modest head of hair.. I don't, and won't settle for fat chicks right now.
Agreed, if you wait too long, the best women your age will be off the table (happily married). You are then left with damaged goods. The leftover singles are are seriously crazy/not that cute/feminists/in the closet/frigid/etc. The divorced pool is dangerous because they are divorced for a good reason (It might have been mostly the husband's fault if you are lucky). You could go a decade younger but she will likely get bored of you or cheat someday. The good news for you is that if you have a good job, are fairly fit and have your hair, then you are a major catch. At least that is according to my wife's divorced/single friends. Good Luck!
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I try to avoid single moms because I don't want to deal with kids right now and I don't want to have to deal with a woman whose entire life revolves around a kid. Last one I met, we talked fairly regularly via text in the ensuing days. They get boring pretty quick because they never do anything but work and do **** with/for the kids. All she does is stuff with her kid, work, and watch TV and she lives in a solid area. Pretty boring overall. I don't do much other than work and watch TV, but I also work like 50-60 hours a week and there isn't **** to do here so at least I have an excuse. I'd get out and do some stuff if there was anything to do around here. I still have her in my contacts but after that first week, I haven't said **** to her since January 16. Today is her birthday, don't even feel like sending a happy birthday text lol. And the father of the kid lived close enough that he got the kid on some weekends, so that was a red flag. Good for the kid he is still involved, but I don't want to mess with any baby daddy drama.
But at my age (32), it gets increasingly harder to find a single lady without kids. Unfortunately, I don't make anywhere near enough money and am not attractive enough to get me a younger single lady without kids.
Alas to say, Tinder and Bumble are not particularly fun these days. Frankly, more like depressing, to be honest. Certainly a humbling experience for sure. In hindsight, I wished I had never gotten on those apps and lived in ignorance of reality.
But at my age (32), it gets increasingly harder to find a single lady without kids. Unfortunately, I don't make anywhere near enough money and am not attractive enough to get me a younger single lady without kids.
Alas to say, Tinder and Bumble are not particularly fun these days. Frankly, more like depressing, to be honest. Certainly a humbling experience for sure. In hindsight, I wished I had never gotten on those apps and lived in ignorance of reality.
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Is 2 chicks at the same time nuts because that's what you're potentially ruling out.
I would read a book about dating single mommas if w2b wrote it. Seems knowledgable.
What if you get a divorced momma and a divorced step daughter momma under the same roof?!!!
I married a single mom and her daughter, who was 3 when she came into my life, is great. The best package deal ever. Being a Step-Dad is one of the most rewarding/challenging things I've ever done.
Gotta go younger. And it's not difficult, men can do this. I have no shame admitting that being a white male is like hitting the lottery twice in one day.
The current girl, and previous girl this past Spring/Summer, were both 21. Girls like older guys. We're established, we can take care of them, and it's honestly easier. You have more confidence and you'd done the dating game much longer. If you can flip eggs, make compliments and don't look like a troll.. you're well ahead of the game.
The current girl, and previous girl this past Spring/Summer, were both 21. Girls like older guys. We're established, we can take care of them, and it's honestly easier. You have more confidence and you'd done the dating game much longer. If you can flip eggs, make compliments and don't look like a troll.. you're well ahead of the game.
It's a paradox: Many guys would not want a woman that would put her kids first...but then who would be stupid enough to want a woman that didn't put her kids first?
Thank you, my dad married my mom when she had two young kids, and they just celebrated 57th anniversary last summer. Good luck to you.
I never question the mom. It's her kids, they should be her life. But you can't expect a guy to be their Dad, certainly not sooner than they are ready. No one seems to view that side of things, but it's a valid point. Hard to commit to a girl, her kids, and the baggage.
He was wise enough, secure enough and a good enough man that he knew he was marrying not just your mother, but the entire family. More importantly, he had the balls to choose to make and honor a commitment. Don't see that much anymore.
I see what you're saying, it's like you get older, but they stay the same age.
Ha, that coupled with some of my recent stories.. I don't fault anyone for thinking I'm quite the unsavory individual. A reprobate even.
I'm a single parent and when the mood strikes I get laid. Don't have the time for relationships and much prefer the stress free hookup.
Plus, I'm an ******* and I hate people as a general principle. So let's just cut to the chase and be down to pound.
Plus, I'm an ******* and I hate people as a general principle. So let's just cut to the chase and be down to pound.
So you have to pay for sex. At least you get exactly what you want that way even if it comes with a side of the clap.
She should put her kid first, that doesn't mean I want to deal with the lady that makes the right decision.
