Not to minimize any of the above observations, but when it comes to college age kids, the lack of maturity in much of the population cannot be overstated...and some of us just don't grow up until later. There are lots of reasons for it, but i don't think it all has to do with parenting exclusively (surely, some cases have that feature). I also don't think the answer is mandatory military service, telling people what to do, making kids work on the farm at age 9 (nothing wrong with that, though) etc. I do think recognizing contributing factors is worthwhile, though so far the major perspective seems to be that it is society, social media, and other things we will never have a top down control on. Talking about it at least allows people to make potentially informed choices about their own lives, but no one else's (thank god).