Ill trade you the holding calls missed on both sides with the pass interface calls that were missed on Nebraska three times with the biggest being the absolute mugging on Viska late in the end zone that even the really great guys from Nebraska sitting next to me were in shock over that it wasn't called. Refs never ever lose a game for a team.
It really is just coach speak to say that officials don't cost teams games. Coaches/people don't want to make excuses when they lose because it looks like sour grapes. When in reality every missed opportunity costs teams games, whether it be a fumble, dropped pass, dropped interception and yes even poor calls or no calls by the officiating crew. It is just the nature of the game, officiating is a judgement call and sometimes they make the wrong call and that does effect the game whether people like it or not. If their calls did not effect the game then you would not need officials.