started smoking and drinking just short of 19th birthday in viet nam , am not just shy of 68yrs. still at it. about 26 yrs. ago my wife finally convince me to stop, which I did. No smoke or drink for about a month, then I came home from work one day and as usual, set my bag down and sat down at the kitchen table at whitch time my wife went to the frige and got out a cold Bud and a pack of cigs from a drawer while saying "I can't take it any more You're not grouchy or mean, you're just nothing, you don't even grunt in response to my trying to talk to you. you just sit there until you go to bed. I don't think you have uttered a word in a month." sorry to say started again and never looked back. wish I could stop. love smoking but hate what it's starting to do to me. all HELP appreciated.