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Not trying to be that guy but I’ve got a bad 2 year old and I’m out of options. My 5 year old is a treasure, caused no problems and seems near perfect. Figured the second would be around the same, but he’s polar opposite. My dad went the belt route and I’m trying my best to be as non old school as possible but my tolerance is running out.

He’s got sensory which causes delayed speech. He’s totally normal otherwise.

But he will only sleep an hour at a time. He’s causing problems everyday. It’s causing bonding issues and lately I’ve found myself giving up and leaving him to her. I just can’t handle it anymore.

Last week for example I took a nap and he pissed all over me on the couch because he was mad that humans require sleep and dad is human. He literally stood over me and pissed on me. I can’t discuss everything he does because this post wouldn’t end.

No one has an answer. Anyone here been through similar? Benadryl did not work.

Please help me.
 
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morgousky said:
Not trying to be that guy but I’ve got a bad 2 year old and I’m out of options. My 5 year old is a treasure, caused no problems and seems near perfect. Figured the second would be around the same, but he’s polar opposite. My dad went the belt route and I’m trying my best to be as non old school as possible but my tolerance is running out.

He’s got sensory which causes delayed speech. He’s totally normal otherwise.

But he will only sleep an hour at a time. He’s causing problems everyday. It’s causing bonding issues and lately I’ve found myself giving up and leaving him to her. I just can’t handle it anymore.

Last week for example I took a nap and he pissed all over me on the couch because he was mad that humans require sleep and dad is human. He literally stood over me and pissed on me. I can’t discuss everything he does because this post wouldn’t end.

No one has an answer. Anyone here been through similar? Benadryl did not work.

Please help me.
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Well........damn.
 
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Sounds like he was just born ready. Idk what you do, but he's built for speed, you gotta let him live his life. Get him involved in MMA, or back alley knife fights.
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I’m wondering if maybe 3 will be better? It’s still 11 months away but I need some sort of light at the end of the tunnel. Just anything to hold on to besides “he’s a typical 2 year old you were just lucky the first time”.
 
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I have two younger brothers who I've been with at least once a week since they were born, which gave me a great 30,000 foot view of parenting. And while they both went through their Terrible 2's (and 3's, don't let people tell you 3's are great either).. they never pissed on any of us like they were at a frat party.

Where the hell did a 2-year old even learn that?

One thing that annoys me about recent parenting, especially my step mom.. is that most of these kids rule the roost. My Dad is stuck eating what they want, and forced to watch their crappy shows. Parenting has gotten absurd. Seems like this kid thinks he runs the world and there's never repercussion.
 
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LineSkiCat14 said:
I have two younger brothers who I've been with at least once a week since they were born, which gave me a great 30,000 foot view of parenting. And while they both went through their Terrible 2's (and 3's, don't let people tell you 3's are great either).. they never pissed on any of us like they were at a frat party.

Where the hell did a 2-year old even learn that?

One thing that annoys me about recent parenting, especially my step mom.. is that most of these kids rule the roost. My Dad is stuck eating what they want, and forced to watch their crappy shows. Parenting has gotten absurd. Seems like this kid thinks he runs the world and there's never repercussion.
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Exactly so I should start going old school? That’s what I think too.

I was taking a nap and he pulled his diaper off ( I usually keep pants on him to avoid this kind of thing) and he stood on the couch and pissed all over my back. When I discipline he laughs. When I’m being nice he cries. I don’t know.
 
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morgousky said:
Exactly so I should start going old school? That’s what I think too.

I was taking a nap and he pulled his diaper off ( I usually keep pants on him to avoid this kind of thing) and he stood on the couch and pissed all over my back. When I discipline he laughs. When I’m being nice he cries. I don’t know.
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I'm not saying TOO old school. I don't think you need to Joe Jackson the kid right yet.. But if one of my brothers did that (they are still 4 and 6), they would be losing toys, TV shows, etc, for a week.

Kids need to know there are rules, and that they do not run the kingdom: mom and dad do. Just take away the things he loves, and then give them back with an explanation. When he's good, make sure to praise him, instill positive enforcement.

I remember the 4 year old would act out (as the 2nd child often does) and he'd get punished. My dad and I always tried to bring him back into the activity, once the punishment was over. It was to show him "Hey, you effed up, but we still love you, now come join us". That way, it didn't fester in him.
 
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morgousky said:
Exactly so I should start going old school? That’s what I think too.

I was taking a nap and he pulled his diaper off ( I usually keep pants on him to avoid this kind of thing) and he stood on the couch and pissed all over my back. When I discipline he laughs. When I’m being nice he cries. I don’t know.
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I am not going to complain about my day because it was no where near this bad
 
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I've got one word for you, pot brownies. Let him have one at breakfast, lunch, and dinner. If he acts up threaten to deny the next brownie. Have one with him and you both sit around and watch cartoons and laugh. Problem solved. You should probably go ahead and piss on him too because you guys are gonna look back on these days with fond memories someday.
 
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Its pretty obvious what you need to do. Plain as the nose on your face.

Wait till he's asleep and you've had about 5 or 6 six beers and your bladder is full and then stand over him and piss all over him. I mean unleash Niagara falls on his ace. See how he likes it.
 
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morgousky said:
Last week for example I took a nap and he pissed all over me on the couch because he was mad that humans require sleep and dad is human. He literally stood over me and pissed on me. I can’t discuss everything he does because this post wouldn’t end.
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Does anything in the "can't discuss everything" section include torturing animals and a fascination with fire? If so, call Quantico.
 
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morgousky said:
Exactly so I should start going old school? That’s what I think too.

I was taking a nap and he pulled his diaper off ( I usually keep pants on him to avoid this kind of thing) and he stood on the couch and pissed all over my back. When I discipline he laughs. When I’m being nice he cries. I don’t know.
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If he cries when your being nice, then maybe you need to try the passive aggressive route.
 
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In my experience, positive reinforcement works much better than negative in these kinds of situations. Anyone telling you to lay a hand or an object on the kid is an idiot, you can call me a snowflake or whatever. It doesn't matter if it "worked" for your parents or your grandparents, it's not right and it doesn't fix anything. He'll grow to resent you more even if it seems to stop him in the short term.

It's a slow roll with kids that age and every single kid is different. Build up what he does right, make a big deal out of it every time. Don't blow up at him for awful **** he does because it will just remind him of the power he has over you. It takes extreme restraint but I'm telling you, he'll slowly realize acting out like that gives him no power if you keep a cool head during an episode like that.

Consistency is key with any punishment. Always follow through. Always explain to them what they did wrong and why it was wrong.
 
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argubs2 said:
In my experience, positive reinforcement works much better than negative in these kinds of situations. Anyone telling you to lay a hand or an object on the kid is an idiot, you can call me a snowflake or whatever. It doesn't matter if it "worked" for your parents or your grandparents, it's not right and it doesn't fix anything. He'll grow to resent you more even if it seems to stop him in the short term.

It's a slow roll with kids that age and every single kid is different. Build up what he does right, make a big deal out of it every time. Don't blow up at him for awful **** he does because it will just remind him of the power he has over you. It takes extreme restraint but I'm telling you, he'll slowly realize acting out like that gives him no power if you keep a cool head during an episode like that.

Consistency is key with any punishment. Always follow through. Always explain to them what they did wrong and why it was wrong.
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I’m trying my best to go this route. Just seems better than the rest. Don’t get me wrong I want to do some crazy **** at this point but I’m going the liberal route. Love cures all. Appreciate the advice.
 
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My wife and I also decided to go the time out route instead of the corporal punishment (spanking) that our parents' doled out. I still held out that a little physical punishment could be effective, so I used the neck pinch when they were little. Pinch a kid's shoulder hard at the base of their neck, and they will go to their knees and understand who's boss without a word.

In hindsight, I wish we'd been more strict with our discipline. It's tougher on the parents to discipline than it is for the kids sometimes, so you have to be committed to it or they'll figure out that you're a pushover pretty fast. Now that they are 8 and 11, they talk to us like they're equals or something. My daughter actually told us that her 1st amendment rights were being violated by our punishment last weekend. I calmly told her that the U.S. Constitution does not apply inside my house unless I deem it so.

"Give 'em an inch, they'll take a mile" isn't just a clever saying...
 
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You don't want your kids to fear you. You want them to fear disappointing you.
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I’ve never laid a hand on my 5 year old. I always went with alternate measures. And he rarely cries, but if we tell him he disappointed us, he will BALL. And I mean so hard we have to immediately almost take it back.

If granny tells him he disappointed her, it’s worse.

That sht really works. I’m just afraid this 2 year old isn’t going to care either way. I’m praying the 3’s are better. Praying.
 
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morgousky said:
Exactly so I should start going old school? That’s what I think too.

I was taking a nap and he pulled his diaper off ( I usually keep pants on him to avoid this kind of thing) and he stood on the couch and pissed all over my back. When I discipline he laughs. When I’m being nice he cries. I don’t know.
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Old school would be fine. I think the important thing about spanking, with a belt or without, is that it is clearly communicated to the kid "I had X rule, you broke it, this is the punishment I told you would happen." Also not to be angry when you spank the kid. It teaches them that rules have consequences when broken.

I do think there is some point when the kid says, "that didnt hurt that bad, I can keep misbehaving," which is probably why most research shows that other methods of discipline work better in the long term. And there is some association between negative long term consequences for the child with spanking.

Bottom line, raising a child is super complicated and any method we choose is ultimately a gamble.
 
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Old school would be fine. I think the important thing about spanking, with a belt or without, is that it is clearly communicated to the kid "I had X rule, you broke it, this is the punishment I told you would happen." Also not to be angry when you spank the kid. It teaches them that rules have consequences when broken.

I do think there is some point when the kid says, "that didnt hurt that bad, I can keep misbehaving," which is probably why most research shows that other methods of discipline work better in the long term. And there is some association between negative long term consequences for the child with spanking.

Bottom line, raising a child is super complicated and any method we choose is ultimately a gamble.
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I agree. My dad was a belt first, respect, obey, and fear me kind of guy. It worked on me, not my sister.

I just don’t want to be that way. If I ever lay a hand, they will know it’s not out of anger and I will explain.

Gonna try and avoid it if I can.

Maybe there’s just nothing I can do except be in misery until he ages.
 
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I agree. My dad was a belt first, respect, obey, and fear me kind of guy. It worked on me, not my sister.

I just don’t want to be that way. If I ever lay a hand, they will know it’s not out of anger and I will explain.

Gonna try and avoid it if I can.

Maybe there’s just nothing I can do except be in misery until he ages.
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Whatever happens, you have the selfawareness to think through what impact you will have on your kid, which ultimately will produce a better adult version of him than any single method could achieve.
 
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Am i a bad person that I laughed so hard I almost pissed myself ? Damn Morg , mine waited til 14-15 to start the torture thing , one even waited til 18 or so . FWIW both are fine now but nothing upsets the cart like difficult situations with your kids .

I do like the one guys advice . Never strike out while angry .. Prob not going to do any good to beat him . ( buts its tempting) Maybe he needs more time with momma ?? LOL

Lastly Do you look like Trump ? He might have thought you requested it ??? LOL
 
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morgousky said:
Not trying to be that guy but I’ve got a bad 2 year old and I’m out of options. My 5 year old is a treasure, caused no problems and seems near perfect. Figured the second would be around the same, but he’s polar opposite. My dad went the belt route and I’m trying my best to be as non old school as possible but my tolerance is running out.

He’s got sensory which causes delayed speech. He’s totally normal otherwise.

But he will only sleep an hour at a time. He’s causing problems everyday. It’s causing bonding issues and lately I’ve found myself giving up and leaving him to her. I just can’t handle it anymore.

Last week for example I took a nap and he pissed all over me on the couch because he was mad that humans require sleep and dad is human. He literally stood over me and pissed on me. I can’t discuss everything he does because this post wouldn’t end.

No one has an answer. Anyone here been through similar? Benadryl did not work.

Please help me.
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Get off this board...your CHILD has some serious issues. Get him help ASAP!!! Like WCF said get in touch with your pediatrician and get help.
 
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morgousky said:
Not trying to be that guy but I’ve got a bad 2 year old and I’m out of options. My 5 year old is a treasure, caused no problems and seems near perfect. Figured the second would be around the same, but he’s polar opposite. My dad went the belt route and I’m trying my best to be as non old school as possible but my tolerance is running out.

He’s got sensory which causes delayed speech. He’s totally normal otherwise.

But he will only sleep an hour at a time. He’s causing problems everyday. It’s causing bonding issues and lately I’ve found myself giving up and leaving him to her. I just can’t handle it anymore.

Last week for example I took a nap and he pissed all over me on the couch because he was mad that humans require sleep and dad is human. He literally stood over me and pissed on me. I can’t discuss everything he does because this post wouldn’t end.

No one has an answer. Anyone here been through similar? Benadryl did not work.

Please help me.
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You need to piss on him to reclaim alpha status. Turn him over in his back, hold him down and stare at him. Growl until he cowers.
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I had it similar to you. My son was an angel. Slept through the night right away and didn't cry a lot. My daughter had colic and drove me nearly insane. I think being able to go to work and get away from her for a while each day is probably the only thing that maintained my sanity. I'm just glad my kids are older now. I am at the teenager years that has it's own drama as well but at least it is better than baby drama. Good luck to you.
 
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