Mental Health Help

[CoachZ27]

I know this probably isn't the place for it, but this is the board where I talk to the most people and this is too important an issue not to take a moment to highlight. I've debated back and forth with myself on whether or not to post anything, but if it helps one person then maybe it was worth it. It will soon be coming out that a pastor from Lexington who had moved to serve at a church in California committed suicide Wednesday afternoon. His name is Jim Howard and he served at Owensboro Christian Church as well as Southern Hills United Methodist in Lexington. I'm only posting this now because articles have come out in California of his passing, and I am sure the news will be coming out here soon.

Please seek help if you are silently struggling with depression. There are many good and healthy resources out there for people having trouble seeing a way out through their pain. Jim is a good man who enriched many peoples' lives, but he chose to end his pain Wednesday. I'm not interested in getting into a discussion about mental illness or religion or anything else, I simply want to remind people who are struggling that there are resources to seek help, and to please do so.

Mods, feel free to move or delete this thread if you don't feel this is the proper audience or place for it.

 

[akaukswoosh]

To bring it closer, he was Jeff Drummond’s brother-in-law.

 

[RACdad]

Bump!!! You know an average of 22 Veterans a day commit suicide. There are many resources out there for anyone, let alone veterans.

 

[stuway]

Bump bump bump. Thoughts and prayers to his family. If yoi are depressed and thoughts of suicide cross your mind, please seek help. Being a real man means admitting you need help, no shame what so ever. Life is a beast, it can bring anyone down at times. Seek help if you habe any mental health issues, please

 

[EliteBlue]

Bump bump bump. Thoughts and prayers to his family. If yoi are depressed and thoughts of suicide cross your mind, please seek help. Being a real man means admitting you need help, no shame what so ever. Life is a beast, it can bring anyone down at times. Seek help if you habe any mental health issues, please

Yep. We live in a culture where men having issues is often forgot about or ignored instead of catered to. It doesn’t make you weak to ask for help if your at your wits end. That takes strength.

I grew up with the “cowboy up” mentality and believe it is the right mentality 90% of the time....but not when in regards to mental health. Life can beat the strangest of man down and you only get out of that hole with help.

At the end of the day we are all on this crazy ride together.

 

[stuway]

Sad this got moved and wont be seen much now. Come on Mods. Some things are bigger than sports. Poor choice to move this thread

 

[Adolph Rollingover]

UK’s president sent a campus wide email .

University of Kentucky President Eli Capilouto is urging students to get the mental health resources they need after two student deaths this month.

 

[philpot cat]

Wow I used to be a member at OCC but he must have been there at a time I wasn't. Sad news to hear about anyone.

 

[WildcatfaninOhio]

When my daughters were in their teens I used any and every publicly known suicide as a conversation starter. I would always remind them of two things. First, the incredible amounts of pain felt by the deceased’s loved ones. And secondly about how life gives everyone ups and downs. I would ask them to recall their own saddest moments and happiest moments. Then I’d let them know how awful it would be to miss out on so many more highs by checking out during a low, which is always temporary.

 

[Johnfarrel]

I know from experience that a person in deep depression cannot pull themselves pot of it without help. In 1986, i was on in deep depression because of an undiagnosed dease. I as suicidal but by the grace of God and the love of a good wife, i was prevented from doing it. I know that a suicidal person is not in their right mind. I spent 3 weeks in a mental ward, they found my pernicious anemia, treated it and my depression an restored me to mental and physical healt
There is nothing unmanly about seeking help when you need it.

 

[Xception]

I would suspect that most don’t seek help because they don’t want to share their problems with strangers. People without depression rarely share personal feelings with anybody outside their close circle. So while it’s a great idea to seek help it’s also easy to see why it doesn’t happen.

 

[WayneDougan_rivals170043]

Aren’t there studies showing articles in the news about people committing suicides lead to more suicides?

 

[8titles_rivals270261]

I grew up with Jim and he was always a great person. He will be sorely missed by everyone he touched through is life. I feel for his wife and family, but man I really feel for Jim knowing how tough his struggles were to come to this. It definitely wasn't what I would have expected having known him through the years. God speed to Jim and prayers up to the family.

 

[Captain Forehead]

BTT. Condoleneces to anyone left in the aftermath of a suicide.

 

[kevcat]

Very sorry to hear this. My thoughts and prayers to his family and friends.

 

[ScrewDuke1]

RIP. Depression is a *****. I've had struggles with it in the past and still do time to time.

 

[MegaBlue05]

Hate this. Mental health awareness is a passion of mine.

My wife has battled depression for most of her life, but only has been officially diagnosed and under treatment for the last 12 years. There have been hospitalizations, medication, suicide attempts, therapy, etc. She (and by proxy me) used to be ashamed of it, and I had to "cover" for her when she wasn't able to attend a family event, social gathering, etc. Most of the time she's a happy, joyful person. But, like a switch being flipped, the depressive episodes are sad, lonely and dark and last anywhere from a week to a month. This time of year is the hardest by far.

Recently she decided to share her story in an effort to help just one person know it's OK to seek help and reach out. We've got to end the stigma on mental illness. It affects so many people in all walks of life. Check on your friends and relatives. Offer a listening ear and a shoulder to cry on. Don't tell people to "suck it up" or "get over it" or "snap out of it." It doesn't work like that. Believe me, I used to say that stuff to my wife all the time before I knew better.

If anyone is struggling, shoot me a DM. I'd be happy to talk to you.

 

[Ephcat]

Thank you for highlighting these issues and giving them a wide forum. Shining a light and bringing higher awareness of mental health issues is PART of the solution and is definitely progress. One point I would make in that regard is that mental health professionals are trying to change the discussion around suicide by getting rid of the phrase "commit suicide", instead referring to "dying by suicide".

This correctly identifies the underlying mental health condition as a disease and not a choice which the traditional phrase implies. Please no I am not trying to call anyone out, or make anyone feel bad...just trying to advance the awareness of the condition.

 

[funKYcat75]

I like to think Jim was controlling the game tonight v. UT like those Buffalo Wild Wings commercials.