I’m extremely saddened to hear this. My condolences and thoughts go out to you.Prayers to Oscar's family and to Oscar especially.
Sadly, I know his agony as I lost my wife unexpectedly to brain cancer last month. God only knows why you take a 37 year old from her 7 year old child and leaves said child with me as the sole remaining parent. The last 3.5 weeks have been pure hell and I have asked God to let me die every day but I feel I am cursed to wonder this earth until I'm 90 with my luck.
I'm not suicidal friends, just sometimes the grief gets to me to the extent I want to be with my wife again so badly. I know she wants me to live on for our son and our family but I miss her so much.
Sorry everyone, don't mean to hijack this thread. I only give my sob story to say hug your spouse and family every chance u get and live everyday like it's your last together because none of us know when they will be taken from us. Prayers to Oscar and his family.
I’m extremely saddened to hear this. My condolences and thoughts go out to you.
Heartbreaking story hopefully time will help you heal. One day you will be able to look back and smile at the good times you had with her. Prayers for you.Prayers to Oscar's family and to Oscar especially.
Sadly, I know his agony as I lost my wife unexpectedly to brain cancer last month. God only knows why you take a 37 year old from her 7 year old child and leaves said child with me as the sole remaining parent. The last 3.5 weeks have been pure hell and I have asked God to let me die every day but I feel I am cursed to wonder this earth until I'm 90 with my luck.
I'm not suicidal friends, just sometimes the grief gets to me to the extent I want to be with my wife again so badly. I know she wants me to live on for our son and our family but I miss her so much.
Sorry everyone, don't mean to hijack this thread. I only give my sob story to say hug your spouse and family every chance u get and live everyday like it's your last together because none of us know when they will be taken from us. Prayers to Oscar and his family.
I married my best friend. I married someone who has seen me at my worst (and I hers) and who reciprocates every act of kindness. We're a team, and that's the way it should be.
I can't imagine what he's going through. Literally, I cannot imagine it... Nor do I want to. Condolences to Oscar and his family. I hope he and his find comfort in their faith if they have it and/or friends and family.
The first holiday season after a loss is always the hardest. Always. I hope there's a way fans can let him know how much we're thinking of him. If nothing else, I hope he sees messages and gets a friendly nod from every stranger he comes across. There are few truer Kentucky fans.
Prayers to Oscar's family and to Oscar especially.
Sadly, I know his agony as I lost my wife unexpectedly to brain cancer last month. God only knows why you take a 37 year old from her 7 year old child and leaves said child with me as the sole remaining parent. The last 3.5 weeks have been pure hell and I have asked God to let me die every day but I feel I am cursed to wonder this earth until I'm 90 with my luck.
I'm not suicidal friends, just sometimes the grief gets to me to the extent I want to be with my wife again so badly. I know she wants me to live on for our son and our family but I miss her so much.
Sorry everyone, don't mean to hijack this thread. I only give my sob story to say hug your spouse and family every chance u get and live everyday like it's your last together because none of us know when they will be taken from us. Prayers to Oscar and his family.
So sad to hear this and I can't even imagine what you are going through but my prayers are with you and your son. I would hate to lose my wife and we're both older than you with no kids home. I will pray for you to get through this extremely difficult time in your life and that you and your son can bring honor and more love to your wife by just having the best possible life together that you can.Prayers to Oscar's family and to Oscar especially.
Sadly, I know his agony as I lost my wife unexpectedly to brain cancer last month. God only knows why you take a 37 year old from her 7 year old child and leaves said child with me as the sole remaining parent. The last 3.5 weeks have been pure hell and I have asked God to let me die every day but I feel I am cursed to wonder this earth until I'm 90 with my luck.
I'm not suicidal friends, just sometimes the grief gets to me to the extent I want to be with my wife again so badly. I know she wants me to live on for our son and our family but I miss her so much.
Sorry everyone, don't mean to hijack this thread. I only give my sob story to say hug your spouse and family every chance u get and live everyday like it's your last together because none of us know when they will be taken from us. Prayers to Oscar and his family.
Find some solace here amongst friends, Friend. I'm so sorry for your loss.Prayers to Oscar's family and to Oscar especially.
Sadly, I know his agony as I lost my wife unexpectedly to brain cancer last month. God only knows why you take a 37 year old from her 7 year old child and leaves said child with me as the sole remaining parent. The last 3.5 weeks have been pure hell and I have asked God to let me die every day but I feel I am cursed to wonder this earth until I'm 90 with my luck.
I'm not suicidal friends, just sometimes the grief gets to me to the extent I want to be with my wife again so badly. I know she wants me to live on for our son and our family but I miss her so much.
Sorry everyone, don't mean to hijack this thread. I only give my sob story to say hug your spouse and family every chance u get and live everyday like it's your last together because none of us know when they will be taken from us. Prayers to Oscar and his family.
I feel the same way 100%. I can’t imagine losing my wife. I pray to the lord to let me go first. I don’t know if I could handle losing her especially like that.I married my best friend. I married someone who has seen me at my worst (and I hers) and who reciprocates every act of kindness. We're a team, and that's the way it should be.
I can't imagine what he's going through. Literally, I cannot imagine it... Nor do I want to. Condolences to Oscar and his family. I hope he and his find comfort in their faith if they have it and/or friends and family.
The first holiday season after a loss is always the hardest. Always. I hope there's a way fans can let him know how much we're thinking of him. If nothing else, I hope he sees messages and gets a friendly nod from every stranger he comes across. There are few truer Kentucky fans.
Hey man we are always here for you. I can honestly imagine the same feelings as you. I have two step children who are grown now so I at least won’t have to be the sole parent to a child. That said I can see feeling the same way and I would be grief stricken badly for a long time. I hope you find the peace you need and that maybe one day you find another person to spend your life with. I understand if you don’t want to, but it’s possible and happens. She will always be the mother to your babies and your wife no matter what.Prayers to Oscar's family and to Oscar especially.
Sadly, I know his agony as I lost my wife unexpectedly to brain cancer last month. God only knows why you take a 37 year old from her 7 year old child and leaves said child with me as the sole remaining parent. The last 3.5 weeks have been pure hell and I have asked God to let me die every day but I feel I am cursed to wonder this earth until I'm 90 with my luck.
I'm not suicidal friends, just sometimes the grief gets to me to the extent I want to be with my wife again so badly. I know she wants me to live on for our son and our family but I miss her so much.
Sorry everyone, don't mean to hijack this thread. I only give my sob story to say hug your spouse and family every chance u get and live everyday like it's your last together because none of us know when they will be taken from us. Prayers to Oscar and his family.
Prayers to Oscar's family and to Oscar especially.
Sadly, I know his agony as I lost my wife unexpectedly to brain cancer last month. God only knows why you take a 37 year old from her 7 year old child and leaves said child with me as the sole remaining parent. The last 3.5 weeks have been pure hell and I have asked God to let me die every day but I feel I am cursed to wonder this earth until I'm 90 with my luck.
I'm not suicidal friends, just sometimes the grief gets to me to the extent I want to be with my wife again so badly. I know she wants me to live on for our son and our family but I miss her so much.
Sorry everyone, don't mean to hijack this thread. I only give my sob story to say hug your spouse and family every chance u get and live everyday like it's your last together because none of us know when they will be taken from us. Prayers to Oscar and his family.
I"m so so sorry to hear that. Please don't quit- you have a son that loves you, needs you, and looks to you.
Prayers for you and your son. I know some days are hard as hell. Been though that myself. Especially this time of year. When I lost my dog, which was kind of the last living connection to my Mom- I experienced a LOT of pain. It was like losing my Mom all over again. And that was about the time Cal decided to start sucking. So, I couldn't even escape in UK BBall.
Take it day by day, hour by hour- hell, minute by minute if you need to. They don't leave us. The night after my Mom passed, I had a dream she called me. And I asked her, "Are you ok?" and she said, "Yes, I'm ok now." I still miss her. A lot. We both went though hell with my Dad's illness. And then she ended up paralyzed and a paraplegic. When she passed, I know she was able to walk again. 13 years of being in that chair were over.
All that to say, that we will always miss those that leave us. Always. And the grief never fully leaves- because that would mean we stopped loving them. Grief is just love with nowhere to go. But we get stronger. And we keep going. Their light passed to us- as a torch to guide us on the paths they would walk with us- a warm halcyon in our hearts.
I know its just a board. And a lot of us argue like a bunch of clucking hens- but a majority of us care about each other. We're brothers in basketball arms.
Hugs and prayers for you man. If you need to come here and rant and scream. We're here.
I appreciate it my friend. And 100% F cancer as you said above.
I haven't been the most religious person n my adult life but something about my wife flat lining at the hospital n Nashville as the Chaplain prayed for her soul has stuck with me the past 24 days. An atheist, or heck, even the doctors, will tell us that was just coincidence. I'm not so sure.
You are always welcome.
I'm a man of faith and science; both have harmony in my life. My science supplements my faith and vice versa. Science to me is just a way to study God's mechanics and math.
And no, I'm not a huge believer in coincidence.
One last piece of advice- get out of the damn house. Please. Take some walks. You and your son just go for a drive. Take it from me, you sit there in those walls and they will talk back to you waaaaaay to much. Get outside even if it's just to look at the stars for 10 minutes. Break that monotony.
I work remote so I "went back to work today" after a very kind 3 weeks of bereavement approved by my employer. Didn't go so well but thankfully boss is understanding. She told me to just log out and get out of the house. So I went to the memorial gardens and walked around a ton and talked to my wife's memorial spot (ala gravesite) and came home and was able to be more productive this afternoon and focus on some work stress to take my mind off everything else. Never thought I'd welcome work stress lol.
I am trying to take my son out and do things on the weekends my parents don't keep him. More father son stuff and he seems to be starting to finally show interest n sports. So maybe we can bond over that as many fathers and sons do. It is definitely gonna be a long road and process. I have seen a therapist once but he can't see me until 11.18 for 2nd session. One day at a time. All I can do.
Yep. That's all any of us can do. Don't make my mistake and throw yourself into work too much. That's just as bad on you. Rest when you need it.
Sounds like you have a good employer. What do you do if you don't mind me asking?
Nice post and great thoughtsYou are always welcome.
I'm a man of faith and science; both have harmony in my life. My science supplements my faith and vice versa. Science to me is just a way to study God's mechanics and math.
And no, I'm not a huge believer in coincidence.
One last piece of advice- get out of the damn house. Please. Take some walks. You and your son just go for a drive. Take it from me, you sit there in those walls and they will talk back to you waaaaaay to much. Get outside even if it's just to look at the stars for 10 minutes. Break that monotony.
I can understand your grief and feel your pain. Lost my parents 4 years apart. Miss them severely even after they have been gone several years. Work was a break from grieving, still is.I work remote so I "went back to work today" after a very kind 3 weeks of bereavement approved by my employer. Didn't go so well but thankfully boss is understanding. She told me to just log out and get out of the house. So I went to the memorial gardens and walked around a ton and talked to my wife's memorial spot (ala gravesite) and came home and was able to be more productive this afternoon and focus on some work stress to take my mind off everything else. Never thought I'd welcome work stress lol.
I am trying to take my son out and do things on the weekends my parents don't keep him. More father son stuff and he seems to be starting to finally show interest n sports. So maybe we can bond over that as many fathers and sons do. It is definitely gonna be a long road and process. I have seen a therapist once but he can't see me until 11.18 for 2nd session. One day at a time. All I can do.
Man this makes me truly sad and brought a tear to my eye.... I'm so sorry for your loss man I truly am I have been with my wife for 25 years and married for 21 with 4 kids and 6 grandkids. I pray for you and your son because if I lose my wife I would feel the same way you do I would be totally lost. I will keep praying for you and your son everyday I am truly so sorry for your loss.Prayers to Oscar's family and to Oscar especially.
Sadly, I know his agony as I lost my wife unexpectedly to brain cancer last month. God only knows why you take a 37 year old from her 7 year old child and leaves said child with me as the sole remaining parent. The last 3.5 weeks have been pure hell and I have asked God to let me die every day but I feel I am cursed to wonder this earth until I'm 90 with my luck.
I'm not suicidal friends, just sometimes the grief gets to me to the extent I want to be with my wife again so badly. I know she wants me to live on for our son and our family but I miss her so much.
Sorry everyone, don't mean to hijack this thread. I only give my sob story to say hug your spouse and family every chance u get and live everyday like it's your last together because none of us know when they will be taken from us. Prayers to Oscar and his family.
Truly sorry for your loss. Praying for you and your son.Prayers to Oscar's family and to Oscar especially.
Sadly, I know his agony as I lost my wife unexpectedly to brain cancer last month. God only knows why you take a 37 year old from her 7 year old child and leaves said child with me as the sole remaining parent. The last 3.5 weeks have been pure hell and I have asked God to let me die every day but I feel I am cursed to wonder this earth until I'm 90 with my luck.
I'm not suicidal friends, just sometimes the grief gets to me to the extent I want to be with my wife again so badly. I know she wants me to live on for our son and our family but I miss her so much.
Sorry everyone, don't mean to hijack this thread. I only give my sob story to say hug your spouse and family every chance u get and live everyday like it's your last together because none of us know when they will be taken from us. Prayers to Oscar and his family.