Coop, I unfortunately think you are correct in that the days of honest debate and discussion are over. I remember back in the 80s and really into the 90s, you could lean to one side, have honest debate, not necessarily agree with the other side but still compromise. Those days are over and I blame the gerrymandering of congressional districts for the current climate, and both parties are to blame for that. If I represent a district that is 70% red or 70% blue, why would I ever compromise? If I did that, I am going to lose my job.
The really sad part is that in the grand scheme of life, the sides are rally not that far apart. However, if I am conservative and only watch Fox News, I never get a real understanding of the left and if I am liberal and only watch CNN, I never get a real understanding of the right. Most of us want the same things for our kids and families. It is a shame that this democracy experiment called USA has come to this.
I have been working on an "essential" project in TX and have been traveling back and forth between NC and TX for the past several months. The project site is in the middle of nowhere and I am staying in a hotel about 20 miles away from the site (closest I could find). I was hanging outside one evening having a smoke and drinking a beer and there were two other guys outside and we talked for several hours. They are both conservative and Trump supporters (one is from OK and the other from LA) and I am liberal and a never-Trumper. We still managed to have a civil discussion regarding Covid, abortion, guns, religion, etc., pretty much all the hot button topics, and while we disagreed on pretty much everything, we were still able to have the discussion and perhaps understand the others viewpoints and how they arrived there. No one was angry, we agreed to disagree and met up the next night to drink a few beers and continue to talk. That is what we need more of....people from the two sides actually talking. If we all stay in our safe red or blue bubbles, this will never change.
Anyway, sorry to ramble; for me, I will probably be gone in 20 years. I just feel bad that this is what we are passing to our kids and grandkids. Hopefully they can be smarter than us and figure out how to make this work.