In high school you have to earn your spot. No one hands it to you.
I am sorry, but that statement isn't 100% correct. When I was in HS and trying out for a varsity sport we had a kid who was cut. But he wasn't cut because he wasn't good enough to play. He was cut because the coach didn't like him.
The kid was having a good tryout and all of us players knew he could not only play, but start at his position and his back up at that position was horrible. We knew that too. He wasn't disruptive and worked as hard as anyone there and was always on time. It was no secret that he and the coach didn't like each other personally. I honestly think the coach didn't like the people the kid hung out with although he never got in any trouble. He and his sophomore coach got along well and he had a better year than anyone on that team.
When cuts came he was on the chopping block and all us players were stunned. His back up certainly didn't "earn" that position but had it "handed" to him. By the way, the kid who had the spot handed to him performed terribly but never sat. His dad was a big time ***-kisser. That coach purposely weakened our team because his ego made him subjectively cut a player who could have helped us win more that we did. I am talking about a HS varsity coach too.
I didn't respect that coach for what he did because we all knew it was wrong. I got along fine with the coach but when I think of best coaches I ever had he never comes to mind.
I have had coaches over the years tell me directly they cut kids they didn't like. I knew some of the kids and there was no doubt the majority of them shouldn't have been. Maybe they weren't all stars but they were certainly good enough to at least make the team.
When we were players we were kind of immune to ***-kissing parents and didn't notice it unless it was blatant. When I put my kids into sports I realized those scum bags were everywhere! I don't know if it's worse now than it was then or not. But it was pretty bad when my kids were playing.
I am not indicting all HS coaches because the majority of those I have met do try to be as objective as they can and are good coaches. But far too many have egos that precede their better judgement in picking and playing the right guys. Coaches are human beings and make mistakes but some guys shouldn't be coaching HS kids or anyone else. I don't like to see a coach playing kids who shouldn't be playing but whose parents kiss ***. Then those coaches turn around and say they play the best players and are playing to win. BS!
Just so we understand where I am coming from, all of my kids were starting players at all levels in HS and two of them went on to become starters with their college teams so I have no ax to grind as a parent with anyone. I never bothered their coaches. I just told my kids what my dad told me. "If you aren't playing then you need to do what it takes to get on that field. I am NOT kissing anyone's ***." Too bad not all parents make that speech to their kids.
I apologize for the long post.