Becoming a major college coach is like winning the lottery. The "best coach" in college Ryan Day came from New Hampshire, knew the right people from New Hampshire, became an assistant at OSU and fell into the head job. There were many opportunities for him to fall off and have to become a high school coach or low college level coach. Just like anything, only the very top level guys can act like Sheiks, the rest are as vulnerable as we are and don't want to end up alone. And they make a lot of money, but being a sugar daddy to a younger girl is exceptionally expensive. Girls over 25 aren't going to just sleep with you for fun anyway and girls under 25 want to be compensated. I think it is actually difficult to find a new partner once you are famous, and not one that just takes from you until you are broke.