I caught my big toe in between the chain and sprocket of a bike when I was about 8 and almost cut it off.
PSA...Never ride a bike without shoes.
PSA...Never ride a bike without shoes.
Worst thing that ever happened to you
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If it's not too painful to discuss, did you have any inclination about what you were about to discover? How did he do it? Did he leave a note?
Condolences. Can't imagine.
My boy was 20 years old two days earlier. Never said a cuss word in his life. Went on a Missionary trip to Burma at 15 with his own money he had saved for his first car. Young adult leader at his church, received a full ride scholarship.
Never dreamed by anyone friend or family that he would take his life. Lived with me last two years. Just moved out 4 weeks earlier.
I received a call he was missing. Went to his apartment complex got police and Landlord to open his door.
Found his car keys, billfold, cell phone, I Pad on table.
My family had all came to his apartment and we were all talking to neighbors asking questions. Nobody saw nothing.
I was walking down the sidewalk trying to think and saw a creek about a 1/4 mile away. I walked to it and saw a small path between the weeds so I followed, just a few steps in he was slumped over siting on the ground, gun in his lap. Shot himself in the face. No note
Later learned he had been to the Walmart a couple hours earlier and bought tooth paste.
Every 40 seconds someone commits suicide.
Something, among many things I have learned.
Suicide doesn't end the pain, it just gives it to those left here.
ray:Ahhh... that's just gut-wrenching.My boy was 20 years old two days earlier. Never said a cuss word in his life. Went on a Missionary trip to Burma at 15 with his own money he had saved for his first car. Young adult leader at his church, received a full ride scholarship.
Never dreamed by anyone friend or family that he would take his life. Lived with me last two years. Just moved out 4 weeks earlier.
I received a call he was missing. Went to his apartment complex got police and Landlord to open his door.
Found his car keys, billfold, cell phone, I Pad on table.
My family had all came to his apartment and we were all talking to neighbors asking questions. Nobody saw nothing.
I was walking down the sidewalk trying to think and saw a creek about a 1/4 mile away. I walked to it and saw a small path between the weeds so I followed, just a few steps in he was slumped over siting on the ground, gun in his lap. Shot himself in the face. No note
Later learned he had been to the Walmart a couple hours earlier and bought tooth paste.
Every 40 seconds someone commits suicide.
Something, among many things I have learned.
Suicide doesn't end the pain, it just gives it to those left here.
It makes no sense.
I'm sure you've said that to yourself a million times.
Prayers for you and your family God Rest his SoulMy boy was 20 years old two days earlier. Never said a cuss word in his life. Went on a Missionary trip to Burma at 15 with his own money he had saved for his first car. Young adult leader at his church, received a full ride scholarship.
Never dreamed by anyone friend or family that he would take his life. Lived with me last two years. Just moved out 4 weeks earlier.
I received a call he was missing. Went to his apartment complex got police and Landlord to open his door.
Found his car keys, billfold, cell phone, I Pad on table.
My family had all came to his apartment and we were all talking to neighbors asking questions. Nobody saw nothing.
I was walking down the sidewalk trying to think and saw a creek about a 1/4 mile away. I walked to it and saw a small path between the weeds so I followed, just a few steps in he was slumped over siting on the ground, gun in his lap. Shot himself in the face. No note
Later learned he had been to the Walmart a couple hours earlier and bought tooth paste.
Every 40 seconds someone commits suicide.
Something, among many things I have learned.
Suicide doesn't end the pain, it just gives it to those left here.
Prayers for the family.
My dads first wife showed up at my grandpas funeral. He had divorced her before my brother and I had even been born. Never met her nor seen a picture of her. My brother was gathering bottled water for people and she asked him for one.
My dad walked up to him and said "What in the hell are you doing getting my ex wife water?"
We just sort of laughed.
Yeah he wasn't kidding.
I appreciate you sharing your experience, as hard as that must be. My father committed suicide when I was 5 years old. My 21 year old brother committed suicide when I was 19.My boy was 20 years old two days earlier. Never said a cuss word in his life. Went on a Missionary trip to Burma at 15 with his own money he had saved for his first car. Young adult leader at his church, received a full ride scholarship.
Never dreamed by anyone friend or family that he would take his life. Lived with me last two years. Just moved out 4 weeks earlier.
I received a call he was missing. Went to his apartment complex got police and Landlord to open his door.
Found his car keys, billfold, cell phone, I Pad on table.
My family had all came to his apartment and we were all talking to neighbors asking questions. Nobody saw nothing.
I was walking down the sidewalk trying to think and saw a creek about a 1/4 mile away. I walked to it and saw a small path between the weeds so I followed, just a few steps in he was slumped over siting on the ground, gun in his lap. Shot himself in the face. No note
Later learned he had been to the Walmart a couple hours earlier and bought tooth paste.
Every 40 seconds someone commits suicide.
Something, among many things I have learned.
Suicide doesn't end the pain, it just gives it to those left here.
I could spend the rest of my life trying to understand why, but I never will. I consider myself to be intelligent, reasonable, logical. Yet I can't begin to comprehend the thought process that leads to that decision. I can't apply reason and logic to a mindset that entirely defies it. Inexplicable, incomprehensible madness of a depth that I can't begin to contemplate is the only possible explanation I can come up with.
I say I never will understand, but there is a possible point at which I think I could understand, and I hope I never get to it. Because I'd be descending into the same depth of madness.
I got a thorn in the front tire of my mountain bike, and had to walk it home.
I watched it for the first time the other night. The perv? Yeah he’s rotting in hell..but the parents? I straight up HATE those clueless ********. Damn I can’t stress that enough.
My boy was 20 years old two days earlier. Never said a cuss word in his life. Went on a Missionary trip to Burma at 15 with his own money he had saved for his first car. Young adult leader at his church, received a full ride scholarship.
Never dreamed by anyone friend or family that he would take his life. Lived with me last two years. Just moved out 4 weeks earlier.
I received a call he was missing. Went to his apartment complex got police and Landlord to open his door.
Found his car keys, billfold, cell phone, I Pad on table.
My family had all came to his apartment and we were all talking to neighbors asking questions. Nobody saw nothing.
I was walking down the sidewalk trying to think and saw a creek about a 1/4 mile away. I walked to it and saw a small path between the weeds so I followed, just a few steps in he was slumped over siting on the ground, gun in his lap. Shot himself in the face. No note
Later learned he had been to the Walmart a couple hours earlier and bought tooth paste.
Every 40 seconds someone commits suicide.
Something, among many things I have learned.
Suicide doesn't end the pain, it just gives it to those left here.
Nothing like losing a child that is really a terrible experience.
But a good friend of mine killed himself 10 or 12 years ago, he had heart trouble and most of us blamed the side effects of the drugs he was taking, which can cause severe depression. Still, I talked to him maybe 2 or 3 weeks before he did it, just a routine call about a routine legal matter, never a single indication he was in bad shape. Afterwards, I even went back through all his emails and nada, no indication at all that something was amiss.
I still think about him, wondering what in the heck went through his mind the last few days, and why he felt like he had to do it. I will never understand.
I still remember when a good friend of mine killed himself. My wife and I had seen him about two weeks before. He was joking around like normal that we didn't know he had any problems. It floored us when we got the call that he shot himself. He had been getting treatment for depression and only his wife and kids knew about it. The rest of us had no clue. Its been several years now and his wife and kids still carry around what he did.
Several of my friends went to Tates Creek HS and they told me at their 10 year reunion, a classmate attended, spent the weekend with his HS buddies, nothing out of the ordinary, then killed himself the following Sunday or Monday. My takeaway is that at least some of these situations, the suicide must be a spur of the moment thing, if someone could intervene, and talk to the individual, then at least some of these tragic events would never happen.
I got a like on my light hearted post in this thread today and reread it. My parents lost their first born daughter in 1954 to polio at 14. I can’t imagine. As I came of age his friends told me my father was never the same man.
In my late 20’s a beautiful angel of a 21 year old girl fell in love with me, and I her. When I didn’t marry her though she dumped me 3 years later. In 1995, with a baby she never wanted, bankrupt, and living in the hell hole that is Farmington, NM she committed suicide. At 32. That weighs on me. I didn’t want children either, would brought her to the place that is Boulder, CO, and damn sure would have never left her broke. If you’ve never watched “13 Reasons Why” I’d recommend it.