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TU_BLA

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Thanks for the info. The info I got from assignors that responded was that in the rec/rec+ levels, there's probably some grace, especially the younger ages and refs are to encourage the players to play quicker. Seems like once we get to 11v11, everyone is indicated we will follow the FIFA prescribed protocols. Like I said, this past weekend I did it just to get that practice since it is new and a change...and the players, especially in competitive leagues it sounds like, will need to adapt as well.

I get in preseason games refs are "lax". It's not really lax. I had a couple girls with jewelry on that I didn't notice until late in my first game on Saturday. I let it slide but made mention to each of the coaches after the game to remember to be properly equipped for any actual games and that included removed necklaces and earrings. Coach was a little peeved at the girls and was like "It's not like they've been playing for 5-6 years".

2nd game, U16s, had a girl with a foul from behind, intently to stop a promising attack. I whistled for the foul and flat out told the player if this had been a real game where we were keeping score, she'd be getting a yellow. Plus referees don't want to waste their time writing down yellow card info when it's going nowhere and has no implications down the line. Heck, even if a fight broke out and I had to actually show a red in a scrimmage, I'm not sure who that would be reported to since the games don't have match numbers associated with them. When you issue a red card, there's a whole report on the USSF site that you have to fill out. Refs have to know their USSF Badge #, match #, game time/date, field and complex, teams involved, both coaches. Apparently USSF keeps a database and for normal RCs I don't think it's a big deal/ For violent conduct, slightly bigger deal and now with the new ref abuse, you get a RC for that and you can forget about playing (or coaching or attending) for a while.
 

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Thanks for the info. The info I got from assignors that responded was that in the rec/rec+ levels, there's probably some grace, especially the younger ages and refs are to encourage the players to play quicker. Seems like once we get to 11v11, everyone is indicated we will follow the FIFA prescribed protocols. Like I said, this past weekend I did it just to get that practice since it is new and a change...and the players, especially in competitive leagues it sounds like, will need to adapt as well.

I get in preseason games refs are "lax". It's not really lax. I had a couple girls with jewelry on that I didn't notice until late in my first game on Saturday. I let it slide but made mention to each of the coaches after the game to remember to be properly equipped for any actual games and that included removed necklaces and earrings. Coach was a little peeved at the girls and was like "It's not like they've been playing for 5-6 years".

2nd game, U16s, had a girl with a foul from behind, intently to stop a promising attack. I whistled for the foul and flat out told the player if this had been a real game where we were keeping score, she'd be getting a yellow. Plus referees don't want to waste their time writing down yellow card info when it's going nowhere and has no implications down the line. Heck, even if a fight broke out and I had to actually show a red in a scrimmage, I'm not sure who that would be reported to since the games don't have match numbers associated with them. When you issue a red card, there's a whole report on the USSF site that you have to fill out. Refs have to know their USSF Badge #, match #, game time/date, field and complex, teams involved, both coaches. Apparently USSF keeps a database and for normal RCs I don't think it's a big deal/ For violent conduct, slightly bigger deal and now with the new ref abuse, you get a RC for that and you can forget about playing (or coaching or attending) for a while.


I know, it is like chill, homies. Work on some stuff you wouldn't otherwise attempt in the season, try a set play or two, attempt a different position. It was hotter than hadies etcc. Don't do dumb stuff.

We pounded the bejesus out of a team from out of state that thought they were badass, who apparently were not very used to losing, let alone losing super bad. The end of the game was ugly. There were familial connections between the teams, and we were actually kind of rooting for the kids as they took each other on at times, etc...

It was pretty chill between the parents and coaches. The players were getting rowdy, which the parents from both teams discussed after the game, with the usual "boys will be boys" attitude discussions.
 

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Scores are about to start counting over the next couple weeks. I'm hoping to catch the 13's WSA/FC Dallas game this weekend. We start Labor Day with Surf and BVB (have beat us last 2 times).
 

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Scores are about to start counting over the next couple weeks. I'm hoping to catch the 13's WSA/FC Dallas game this weekend. We start Labor Day with Surf and BVB (have beat us last 2 times).
How does the GA nationals work? How many teams from each age group in the Frontier qualify for the top division at nationals? Are there multiple divisions at nationals ?

Hard to believe our season starts in 3 days against WSA
 
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Bringbackwoj

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How does the GA nationals work? How many teams from each age group in the Frontier qualify for the top division at nationals? Are there multiple divisions at nationals ?

Hard to believe our season starts in 3 days against WSA
What is the word out of WSA? Samesy, better, worse? Depends on the Age group?
 

lawpoke87

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What is the word out of WSA? Samesy, better, worse? Depends on the Age group?
My guess :

13s worse as the top girls stayed at TSC
12s should be slightly better
11s hard to see how they will be better considering the girls lost to Energy
10s about the same
09s better
08s this age group is so bad statewide the idea of better/worse is relative
 

ScheelSC

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My guess :

13s worse as the top girls stayed at TSC
12s should be slightly better
11s hard to see how they will be better considering the girls lost to Energy
10s about the same
09s better
08s this age group is so bad statewide the idea of better/worse is relative
What's bad about the 13's is they lost one who dropped back to the 14's (had played 3 years with 13's), 2 of their best players went to Blitz (including Bush's niece o_O)

I love a lot of these girls......It's not going to be just "rough" I'm not sure what you call it??? FC Dallas could hang 20 plus on them if they choose. ECNL has a problem in this market and no one has the solutions.......
 
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lawpoke87

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What's bad about the 13's is they lost one who dropped back to the 14's (had played 3 years with 13's), 2 of their best players went to Blitz (including Bush's niece o_O)

I love a lot of these girls......It's not going to be just be "rough" I'm not sure what you call it??? FC Dallas could hang 20 plus on them if they choose. ECNL has a problem in this market and no one has the solutions.......
The solution would be one team for the entire state. Okc and Tulsa girls train in their respective cities twice a week and then train together once a week. Most of those teams would compete for champions league spots every year. DA had that exact model for Oklahoma back in the day.