I think you're being a bit dramatic. This is not a matter for forgiveness. It's just a bar argument.
I don't bear any ill will towards him - I don't want any harm to come to him..... simply put, I just don't feel that I have any reason to apologize. If I did, I would.
This is all you need to know about this guy. There is no reason for me to characterize him with my words when we can all see him for what he is by his actions.
I wasn't asking you to be friends or all friendly. We will never agree on the majority of things. Please re-read my post. All I wanted us to do was to give each other an apology, something I offered to do first, then move on. But you just can't find it in yourself to do that can you? That, in itself, tells everyone all we need to know about you.
I approached you first which, in the opinion of someone else here, makes me the better person already. If you can't honestly see any reason to apologize, you are more lost than I can put into words. You are the one with the problem, not me. An apology is not a sign of weakness, it is a sign of strength. Because doing so means you are being honest with yourself. You seem to have a problem with that based on what I have read from you. If you want to go through life trying to kid yourself and others I feel sorry for you.
I even offered to leave the board for a period of time if I went back on my pledge. You couldn't even agree on doing that. I am a man of my word. I have to question whether you are or not based, again, on what I am reading. Not apologizing IS carrying a grudge. There is no other way to explain it. Apologizing is NOT being a hypocrite unless you go back on that apology.
An apology is not just saying, hey I'm sorry. It is also about accepting responsibility, which you aren't doing by saying you have nothing to apologize for. And then saying, it won't happen in the future, i.e., if I went back on the pledge I would take time off the board. I am NOT asking for forgiveness. I am just saying we should exchange apologies.
This whole episode in this thread shines the light on the fact that you are a very unhappy man and that is real sad...especially at this time of year. What a shame.
Everyone on this board sees what we are writing.