When I read about parents who affirm their trans kids I really feel for them. It could so easily have been me. When my kid told me, I found Mermaids Parents via 1st page of Google.
Trans is not a phase they said, get them on blockers quick, get on the list, use GenderGP,
don't use their deadname, change their pronouns, have a fun shopping trip for a new wardrobe and visit the hairdresser, if you don't they will self harm or worse!
But my kid wasn't showing any signs of being the opposite sex and never had before.
Some of the affirming parents...
made worrying posts, SO MANY kids appeared to have ASD or ADHD. Sometimes 5 or more new parents joined each day, all with the exact same story, nobody thought it was odd! A few parents DMd me in private, agreeing with my concerns.
I went deeper into Google's results and found..
a very different story. Studies clearly showed: it COULD be just a phase, Blockers WERE harmful, Xsex hormones were NOT a cure, social contagion IS a thing, affirmation DOES make a difference, kids DO desist, brains are NOT fully developed, gender is NOT biology, therapy CAN help
the suicide studies were flawed, the Dutch study was seriously flawed, in fact all of the 'science' I'd been shown was flawed.
But all those people couldn't be lying or mistaken, why? What's the point?
Then I saw for myself who sponsored who, how many private clinics & surgeons
were popping up. The lobby groups, the politics, the activists, the vulnerability of the gender concept, the cult-like behaviour, shaming and cancelling, the power, the attention...
I actually read JKR's essay!
My entire social group were brainwashed too, I couldn't be open with
them, others had been silenced
Trans friends became activists and obsessed
It was all terrifying-all the time
We never affirmed, we waited and learned and listened. It was the harder path.
My kid no longer feels like the opposite sex.
Therapy & time helps with GD, it's ongoing