Do not get married. Don't do it. Not worth it. If you don't listen to my first warning listen to the following: under no circumstance ever have kids. Do not do it. Not worth it. If she pressures you to get married, break up with her.
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I would tell her to go touch herself.
Unless that ****** had a cape with an S on it.
When you get one that snaps at you and holds on like an octopi tendril then you;ve got a keeper.
In 1996 I was 27 when I met my wife. We dated for a year, were engaged for a year, and then we married shortly before I turned 30( She was 27).
Within three years of graduation, finding women( I prefer 1-3 years younger) that weren't already carrying baggage was difficult. By the time I met my wife, it had been years since I met someone who wasn't a single mom and I was resolved that that was my future. I have always been extremely thankful that my wife had/has all the qualities I was looking for when I was 21.
I think the current generation of single men have it pretty easy. I was one of the last of my group of guys to settle down. By guys like me dragging our feet, we have paved the way for you to have more options.
Your welcome.
Within three years of graduation, finding women( I prefer 1-3 years younger) that weren't already carrying baggage was difficult. By the time I met my wife, it had been years since I met someone who wasn't a single mom and I was resolved that that was my future. I have always been extremely thankful that my wife had/has all the qualities I was looking for when I was 21.
I think the current generation of single men have it pretty easy. I was one of the last of my group of guys to settle down. By guys like me dragging our feet, we have paved the way for you to have more options.
Your welcome.
Willy, I am honored. I mostly lurk the paddock and GYERO. You make this place a far more interesting and defiant place to visit.
I'm privileged for setting you up for that one.
OP here is a joke that you probably won't fully appreciate today but you absolutely will one day if you give in to this chick's pressure:
Two married Fellas, Jim and Alec were having a beer after work. Jim says: "Have you ever said something when you meant to say something else?"
"How do you mean?" said Alec.
"Well, see the other day, I went to buy airline tickets. The rather attractive sales clerk was wearing a low cut blouse and instead of two tickets to Pittsburgh, I asked for “two Pickets to Titsberg"
"Yeah, I know what you mean," said Alec. "Last week I was having breakfast with my wife. I looked at her and meant to say 'Please pass me the Sugar.' But what came out was "You *****, you've ruined my life!!!"
Two married Fellas, Jim and Alec were having a beer after work. Jim says: "Have you ever said something when you meant to say something else?"
"How do you mean?" said Alec.
"Well, see the other day, I went to buy airline tickets. The rather attractive sales clerk was wearing a low cut blouse and instead of two tickets to Pittsburgh, I asked for “two Pickets to Titsberg"
"Yeah, I know what you mean," said Alec. "Last week I was having breakfast with my wife. I looked at her and meant to say 'Please pass me the Sugar.' But what came out was "You *****, you've ruined my life!!!"
IMO, if she's pressuring you, it may mean:
1. She's very immature. She has friends that are getting engaged, enjoying the spotlight. She wants the same attention;
2. She has issues i.e....she "needs" to get married. A mature, well rounded person can lead a satisfying life without marriage. The ideal position is " I don't need to be married, but I want to be married to a specific person"
3. She doesn't trust you. She believes getting married will put a lock on you.
In my opinion, if you have been with this person for several years and still don't want to marry them yet, then you're with the wrong person.
Any long-term relationship I was in, I knew I didn't want to marry them and was pretty upfront about it. However, when you actually meet someone you do have those feelings about, it changes everything. I got married to my wife after only knowing her for 7 or 8 months. It sounds crazy and I wouldn't advise others to do it but we've been married for 6 years and have two amazing kids and we're best friends.
Like they say...when you know, you know.
Any long-term relationship I was in, I knew I didn't want to marry them and was pretty upfront about it. However, when you actually meet someone you do have those feelings about, it changes everything. I got married to my wife after only knowing her for 7 or 8 months. It sounds crazy and I wouldn't advise others to do it but we've been married for 6 years and have two amazing kids and we're best friends.
Like they say...when you know, you know.
Dude, I would bounce if any woman demanded that from me. By the way, genius planning for your married life to start with $30k on a GD ring instead of for household expenses.
My wife married me when I absolutely had nothing in my bank account. That's how I knew she was great and she loved the affordable ring I bought her, which I got by selling UK autographed memorabilia and the little bit of cash I did have.
ANY girl that would place demands on the cost a ring should be avoided at all costs.
Start your marriage by bowing down and you might as well stay there. This entire question, while providing great fodder for us to make fun of, is startlingly bad. To even have to ask this question means he's going to buy the ring, get married, and live the rest of his life being the obvious groveling lapdog that he is. Cuckholded within a month if not on his very wedding night by a caterer. He sounds like the premise for the next Ben Stiller movie.
ditto. before i was going to meet my soon-to-be future wife, i had posted to the paddock about it. had gotten some advice from dennisreynolds that long distance was a bad idea. he was right.
i was in san francisco and she was in texas. i told her i wanted to make babies with her on the first date. she changed her life, moved thousands of miles and we haven't looked back. love is a hell of a drug.
I can only imagine how that went.
As D2's date slowly gets into his car for the first time
D2: "Wow, you look so hot tonight that I want to make babies with you ASAP. I mean, I want to knock you up so effing bad. I'm gonna get you double pregnant. Girl, you're gonna get so pregnant tonight that you'll barely be able to walk 9 months later. How many kids do you think we'll have? 10 or 20?"
Haha yeah, I hail Mary'd that date. On the plus side, there was all sorts of hole conquering I performed that evening
My wife had two "friends" from her law school days who both made similar demands about the ring. Both ended up cheating on their husbands with men who had more money than husband number 1. Tell your friend that he his an idiot if he proposes to that woman.
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We got married three months after we met. That was 41+years ago. There is no set time frame. I had an aunt and uncle that were engaged for 18 years before they got married. What feels right for the both of you is the correct amount of time. It isn't something that you should be pressured into.
I got married to my wife after knowing her for 7 months. Before that, I had multiple relationships that had lasted 3-4 years and knew I did not want to marry them. However, with my wife, I knew. We both knew what we wanted and didn't want and it made sense.
Everyone is different though. If I made the decision to get married, I wanted to get married. I didn't want to wait forever to do it.
I'm not sure that you can classify climbing up into a tree and using binoculars to peer through the window shades as "multiple relationships that had lasted 3-4 years" but I am happy you've finally settled on which one to chloroform and kidnap.
I tried the personal relationship with toasting my anus but it just didn't work for me. There was just this space between us.
I worked with some people whose parents arranged their marriage. They were originally from Hong Kong, South Korea and India. They were living and working in the US when they returned to get their new wives. The one from India, a woman, was born and raised in the US. When she flew back to Calcutta, she balked and refused to get off the plane. She later married an American, but the marriage broke up after about two years. The two men are still happily married the last time I checked. Maybe Father and Mother do know best.
No, unfortunately this thread ends with the OP caving in, living a life of a loveless marriage, and quietly meekly hiding from his wife at a mettle desk in his attic while he fantasizes about being the leader of the great Ork people on a far away planet where his word is absolute rule before hastily being ordered downstairs to set the table for his mother-in-law's 6th visit that week.