Right now just about all places are price gouging on firearms and ammo. Buds Gun Shop in Lexington is the big dog. They’ve got a warehouse with A TON of inventory.....especially since they do so much online sales. Classic Firearms in Lex is a good small shop. Antique and Modern is a nice small shop as well. But there are so many places in the surrounding areas.
As far as finding pistols to carry. Buds does rentals at the range. You can rent a lane for 30 minutes (both you and your wife can share a lane, rent a pistol, and buy 2 boxes of ammo for $50.......in fact I did it earlier today. They have hundreds of pistols to rent......and you can switch pistols as often as you want within the time limit. So, you could try dozens if you want.....but if I were you I would go in with 3-4 pistols in mind, try them, and choose what you like to buy. They also have a special deal where you can try before you buy......it’s cheaper, but you don’t get much time or shots to play with.
As far as caliber, I wouldn’t worry too much. Go with 9mm for the both of you. You’ll hear debates about certain calibers being better, but 9mm is the most popular caliber in the world. Ammo is cheap. Both you and your wife shouldn’t have any trouble shooting it.....especially with practice. And if you choose the right defensive ammo (Federal HST, Speer Golds, or Hornady Critical) it is very deadly. Plus, you can buy 1 caliber that will work for both of you.....thus can share.
As far as which brands or guns to choose.....stick with the name brands. Glock, Smith and Wesson, Springfield, Sig Sauer, CZ, etc. But you can get very good guns from Ruger, Canik.
Probably the most popular and stellar choices for concealed carry are: most of these will be in the $400-600 range.
1. Glock - 43 (small, thin, light, but doesn’t hold a ton of shots....I carry this the most myself), 43x, 19 (the most popular handgun in the world.....and one that I carry the 2nd most)
2. Smith and Wesson Shield
3. Sig Sauer 365 (small, but magically holds a lot of shots for a package that small)
If need a little cheaper:
1. Ruger - SR9c
2. CZ P10c.....this might actually belong in the tier above
3. Canik TP9 compact
DO NOT be afraid to buy used. BY FAR, most people don’t shoot enough to wear out their guns.......heck, in most cases the firearms sit in safes on in the back of a closet. You better believe that if it came down to buying a used Smith and Wesson police trade in gun and a brand new crap gun......I’m taking SW without a thought.
Another thought.....though don’t get tied to this thought but it is something to think about. If you and your wife get the same pistol, you both with have familiarity with each other’s......will be able to share magazines.....share ammo......share holsters....etc.
The CCW permit is not needed unless you cross state lines as drcats mentioned. It is nice to have though. Just about any state in an 800 mile radius respects our license except Illinois. This means you can carry in Florida when you are on vacation, etc.
Also, the course is NOT designed to teach you much about firearms themselves. They will often briefly go over the parts of the gun.....and might show you how to clean it.......but the instruction is very, very brief. The shooting test is CRAZY easy.....even for rookies....again they likely will not teach you how to shoot. If you want actual firearm training there are classes everywhere and I HIGHLY, HIGHLY recommend taking some classes....
....what the CCW license course does is teach you quite a bit about the legal aspects of firearms.....like can you bring a gun onto high school grounds......when to shoot during a bunch of discussed situations.......etc.
Now, onto home defense.
Why a shotgun?
If you have a lot of experience with shotguns and/or just want one, then disregard the comments that come in a second.......just buy one and forget I said anything.
Are you worried about over penetration? If you are, then don’t get a shotgun. For home defense, the best loads are 00 buck or slugs.......both will penetrate more than an AR15 round. And, yes, I said that correctly. Big, solid, slow moving projectiles penetrate more than fast and tiny ones. So, in general, pistol and shotgun rounds will penetrate more than a 5.56/223 from an AR.
Are you thinking the shot will spread thus making it easier to hit an intruder? This is a fallacy as well. Most home encounters are around 5 yards or closer.....maybe 7 yards. Most shotguns will only spread about the size of a golf or tennis ball at that range if you’re lucky. You can use bird shot which will spread more, but then you’re dropping a ton of lethality. Also, shotguns have hefty recoil......and low round count. You very likely will NOT be able to shoot as fast and as accurate as some other options. Plus you probably only have only 3-5 shots......which will be slow to reload.
Could your wife be comfortable using it for home defense? Women use shotguns a lot.....so, she could be fine......but it would better to have a home defense gun that you both can use well.
There is a reason why guns like the AR15 are so popular. They are much, much more lethal than pistols. They are usually lightweight. They will usually hold 30 rounds in a magazine.......compared to 3-5 with shotguns, or 7-15 with pistols. Like pistols they are very quick to reload. Ammo is cheap. And the biggest thing is that they are stupid easy to use. There is little recoil so repeated shots are a breeze. They are crazy accurate especially with red dot optics. Men, women, children all use they with ease. Controls are easy. Because you have 3 points of contact and long sight pictures, people are usually far more quick and accurate over pistols. They even have ARs that use 9mm ammo......so, you can have all of you guns using the same ammo.
Which brings up another point.....pistol caliber carbines. If ARs seem a bit large or scary, you can get something like a CZ Scorpion which a little personal defense weapon that uses pistol ammo. The benefits over an AR is that you gain more mobility and possibly use the same ammo as your carry pistols.....but you lose some lethality.
Once you get further we can discuss how to store everything at home...cause, I have a feeling I’ve overwhelmed.
Please, ask questions. As you can tell, I’m passionate about this stuff.