Don't marry someone whose parents were divorced. Marry someone whose parents have the kind of relationship you desire for yourself. Patterns are real and more times than not they repeat themselves over and over again.
If you were to give advice or a truth to your younger self or a fellow human, what would it be?
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I'm on the cusp of following your advice in paragraph 2. I work at home most evenings after the office, and a weekend where I don't put in 10+ hours is almost unheard of. Even if not taking up the whole weekend, it overshadows it. Just as not having more children is the only true regret I have in my life, I am confident not spending more time with my son in these next few years would be the second one.
This one is a tough balance for me ("sacrifice at a young age to prepare for later in life"). Of course I do want to retire at an age where I can appreciate it and enjoy it, but I also don't want to sacrifice today for a future that isn't guaranteed. My father sacrificed his entire life to have a better tomorrow, and then tomorrow didn't come. He was only months away from being a multi-millionaire, but never got to enjoy a day of that. Similarly, I had a client a couple years back selling his business and I asked him why now. He said he watched his father work his entire life and die unexpectedly without ever enjoying a moment of retirement, and he didn't want to end up the same.
Those experiences undoubtedly have caused me to live a bit too day-to-day and extend myself more financially than is most responsible. I do recognize a need to be better about preparing for the future though.
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