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UKserialkiller

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Willy, dude, I don't know you from Adam and we probably don't have a whole lot in common, but I like your sense of humor and hope everything works out for you. I know that won't ever show up on a Hallmark card, but I genuinely like you and hope things turn around.


Brother, we're prolly more alike than you know. Thanks
 
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UKserialkiller

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i suck at giving advice, like real advice, not snarky ******** humor, so i won't even try. obviously have never met any of you, but you all seem like good peoples. hang in there Wily. life is a roller coaster ride. just keep riding man.

If she doesn't take me back. I'm thinking about making her sell the condo and making sure I get half of what's in the savings. I spent all my money paying for the rent and mortgage which allowed her to bank all the money into her accounts. So, I'm thinking if she doesn't comeback, I'll get a divorce lawyer.

Can I get paid alimony if she makes more than me?
 
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yes, i believe. depending on Florida laws. always get a lawyer. many wise divorced men have told me, "you never really truly know your woman until you stand across from her in a courtroom". does she have a 401k? your savings regardless of where the money came from or whose name is on the account belongs to both of you. i think. lawyers are sneaky sobs and women get all the breaks. always lawyer up. of course they will end up getting most of what you split, but at least she isn't walking away with everything.
 
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Zar_Doz

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bbn- see, you give good info brah

well i wouldn't take my word for anything lol. and women, yea they want to be equal until it f**ks them. so yeah, everything will be weighted in her favor in divorce court. if you had more money in savings, made more money and had a healthy 401k, she would be getting half of everything you accumulated since you signed the marriage papers. and depending on how much more money you made than her and how much of her lifestyle you supported, you would be paying alimony. with it being reversed, they will probably strip you of your penis and manhood and tattoo a large A on your chest and shame you publicly for the rest of your life.
 

ukwildcat2004

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Thanks. I know you knew I was making a mistake and I was.

I just ended it with the other girl. That may still not bring my wife back to me, but at least I did the right thing.

I am thankful that you all have been supportive. Now, let's see if time will heal this. Yesterday, I even prayed to God. Something I haven't done since I was a teenager. Will that prayer work? I'm not sure. If there is a Big Guy in the Sky, he may see that I'm too broken to help. We'll see....

I'm not the most religious guy but I do know your are not a wasted guy or prayer. Also the big guy wouldn't give you something you couldn't handle. May not be the way you want it but nonetheless you'll come out on the otherside fine.

Learn from it and make sure the same mistakes aren't made again especially if she agrees to take you back. It may take some time I'm guessing she's pretty upset and hurt. Give her the space she needs and remind of her the good times. Hopefully in the end she can see it was a horrible mistake. It takes two tango and she isn't completely innocent in this. She needs to fix what drove you away.

I don't know willy even If you came in my house and tickled my butt hole but I wish you nothing but the best for you. Your humor makes me laugh and your are good people. Vent as much as you need.
 
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UKserialkiller

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bbn- you're right about that. Here's the kicker. She did me wrong 2 yrs in the marriage. I haven't mentioned that part yet. But she did. Said no sex, but i never believed her. I've have had trouble coping with it for 10 years. Man.

Ukwild2004- thanks for the kind words. I'm actually a pretty loyal dude to my friends and my wife (well i was loyal with my wife until i did this). I hope your right. Gonna be hard to overcome 10 yrs of marriage that i caused and thus wanted to stay. But thanks
 
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i'm sure most of you who are much smarter than me could chime in but i think it should be an amicable 50/50 split. you need a lawyer for sure to ensure that. of course the lawyers are the only ones who come out ahead.
 

UKserialkiller

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i'm sure most of you who are much smarter than me could chime in but i think it should be an amicable 50/50 split. you need a lawyer for sure to ensure that. of course the lawyers are the only ones who come out ahead.


How much will one cost? I guess it depends how much they see we have ha ha
 

Kaizer Sosay

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Mr. Willy, did no one try and tell you this situation would be a bad idea... either on this board or in real life?

The whole thing blows.


Yeah man, there was advice given to Willy on this board. Some of it good...some of it bad. But probably the best advice of all is to not get your advice from a meaningless message board. But then again, I just gave you that advice right here on a meaningless message board. Sooooo...

Having said that…a pretty woman can make the best of advice become instantaneously irrelevant in the wink of an eye.

(I almost said "in the wink of a brown eye" for Willy's benefit but I chose the more conventional approach because that's what Willy needs at this juncture...conventional wisdom.)
 

55wildcat

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Willy, we all have made mistakes. My advice to you is, if you truly love your wife (and you know in your heart) you fight like hell for her. Soulmates only come around once in a lifetime, (your heart will know that to). She will never forget but will somehow learn to accept you made a mistake and see that you are fighting for her. That mends a lot of fences when she sees' you have remorse and fighting for her. Don't give up yet and keep fighting if you want to get back together...been there and done that..It's hell to pay but the cost is mega fold worth it in the end....that's fact and be prepared to eat crow for a long time but you have to re-earn her trust, that's the key...re-earning her trust...Hoped you learned a lesson and hope it works out for ya..
 
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herodotus6

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Prenuptial agreement. Ol' Herod ain't getting married unless they are willing to sign one. I've seen too many guys get shafted even when the wife was the one who f***ed up and cheated or ended the marriage. No way that **** is happening to me.
 
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UKserialkiller

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Willy, we all have made mistakes. My advice to you is, if you truly love your wife (and you know in your heart) you fight like hell for her. Soulmates only come around once in a lifetime, (your heart will know that to). She will never forget but will somehow learn to accept you made a mistake and see that you are fighting for her. That mends a lot of fences when she sees' you have remorse and fighting for her. Don't give up yet and keep fighting if you want to get back together...been there and done that..It's hell to pay but the cost is mega fold worth it in the end....that's fact and be prepared to eat crow for a long time but you have to re-earn her trust, that's the key...re-earning her trust...Hoped you learned a lesson and hope it works out for ya..

Thanks 55. Powerful words.


KS- i dunno. Even if it's a mssg board. Lot of good asvice has been given. Same stuff given in therapy
 

Captain Forehead

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Willy. Since you broke it off with the hot girlfriend. Would you care to share her phone number on this message board? :smiley: I'm sure some of these single guys would appreciate it. Asking for a friend. :stuck_out_tongue_winking_eye:
 

UKserialkiller

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Willy. Since you broke it off with the hot girlfriend. Would you care to share her phone number on this message board? :smiley: I'm sure some of these single guys would appreciate it. Asking for a friend. :stuck_out_tongue_winking_eye:

hahaha, you wouldn't want it. Trust me. Her stuff is very fishy. I mean almost boner reduction fishy. That's one of the reasons too. We'd be in the car and I could smell it with no sexual stuff going on. Amazing that how gorgeous she is and how awful of a fish trap it was.
 

funKYcat75

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hahaha, you wouldn't want it. Trust me. Her stuff is very fishy. I mean almost boner reduction fishy. That's one of the reasons too. We'd be in the car and I could smell it with no sexual stuff going on. Amazing that how gorgeous she is and how awful of a fish trap it was.
Should we send her some anonymously mailed care packages? Fragrant herbs and oils?
 
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argubs2

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Posted a story a couple months ago about a scary wreck I saw happen while coming down a very perilous stretch of road near me. I was pretty sure anyone in the car was dead or at minimum severely injured as I went to help them....wound up being just one kid in his 20s, walking up the hill completely unscathed before I even got to the embankment to start climbing down.

Since then, I've passed two more wrecks in the same location within a week of each other. Then a couple weeks ago, this happened.

This car was in the exact same creek bed in the very same spot as the Mustang I saw flip off, only these people landed top down. Sketchy AF, community going bonkers because of many previous complaints to the city about that stretch of road.

Anyway, just another reminder that **** is real and a couple of inches can be the difference between life or death.


HAPPY TUESDAY YA'LL