OT: Baby Showers for Men Discussion
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If we need an excuse to make going out and getting hammered and wasting a bunch of money acceptable to our wives, our culture is already lost.
Sorry, thought I hit the link for SixPack ... I ended up on NAFOOM ... my bad
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My advice for any man that's about to have a baby - Use whatever excuse you can that will allow you to get out of the house to have a good time every now and then because the next couple years of your life are going to be a living hell. 9 months of your wife complaining every day about discomfort, spending half her time over the toilet, and having even more mood swings than normal... only to be followed by 12 months of a crying baby, no sleep, and you and your wife being at each other's throat on a consistent basis. I love my daughter and the good news is that it all gets better eventually, but I'm just shooting straight with you. The real kicker above all else is that while your wife will get plenty of sympathy(and rightfully so), no one and I mean NO ONE is going to give a **** about whether you're tired or stressed out.
If you have an excuse to have a good time, 17ing do it while you can. That's all I'm saying...
If you have an excuse to have a good time, 17ing do it while you can. That's all I'm saying...
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There is no bigger blessing than a child. That said, I am 14 or so months in with my daughter and can attest to this. Pretend the family is all represented by a totem pole (include pets). Daddy is the part of the totem pole that's half way under the ground and you have to brush away mud and grass to even see him. I
f you are looking for a bender in the next 3 years, you need to have it now. Ask for forgiveness the next morning around 10:00 am when you wake up because there is no crying baby yet.
There is no bigger blessing than a child. That said, I am 14 or so months in with my daughter and can attest to this. Pretend the family is all represented by a totem pole (include pets). Daddy is the part of the totem pole that's half way under the ground and you have to brush away mud and grass to even see him. I
f you are looking for a bender in the next 3 years, you need to have it now. Ask for forgiveness the next morning around 10:00 am when you wake up because there is no crying baby yet.
I think I saw you in The Breakup..Jennifer Anniston's friend's husband?
To your point, I don't think anything that resembles The Hangover is in order. But things are about to change...for good AND for bad. Let me tell all you expectant fathers out there a little story. About 13 years ago I moved to town and joined a little softball team sponsored by this very website. It was filled with young single bucks brimming with confidence and testosterone. After each game we always had the opportunity to imbibe at the local watering hole (The Pub). As one of the more senior members of the squad, I was not always able to make the after game festivities. There was a wife and two small children waiting at the house for my return. There was wife a at home NOT drinking which often times led to heated discussions when I came home from the bar all giddy and distracted. She wanted me to be as miserable as she was. Anywho, those young stallions as you might imagine gave us senior ballers hell when we had to politely decline the after hours invitation. Yes it was a shot to the ego, but we Dads made a decision. And it was time to live with it.
Ironically, the next couple of years came girlfriends for those young players. Then engagements and ultimately marriage. It didn't take kids for these 'playas' to start stepping back from the after game activities. They let the wife shut it down!! Now these boys are starting to have kids and the ones that ARE still allowed to play softball have to bring the kids with them to the game! Oh no...the wives aren't there...just these former shells of themselves who are now telling all of us to watch our language as their kids trip all over the bats in the dugout. Oh how times have changed. Speaking of which..my kids are teenagers now and I can't remember the last time I asked my wife 'permission' to do anything.
Bottom line, I don't think there's anything wrong with getting together with the boys as long as it doesn't put the life of the soon to be father in jeopardy. Because until that baby is able to wipe his own butt and make his own food, life as you've known it is done.
To your point, I don't think anything that resembles The Hangover is in order. But things are about to change...for good AND for bad. Let me tell all you expectant fathers out there a little story. About 13 years ago I moved to town and joined a little softball team sponsored by this very website. It was filled with young single bucks brimming with confidence and testosterone. After each game we always had the opportunity to imbibe at the local watering hole (The Pub). As one of the more senior members of the squad, I was not always able to make the after game festivities. There was a wife and two small children waiting at the house for my return. There was wife a at home NOT drinking which often times led to heated discussions when I came home from the bar all giddy and distracted. She wanted me to be as miserable as she was. Anywho, those young stallions as you might imagine gave us senior ballers hell when we had to politely decline the after hours invitation. Yes it was a shot to the ego, but we Dads made a decision. And it was time to live with it.
Ironically, the next couple of years came girlfriends for those young players. Then engagements and ultimately marriage. It didn't take kids for these 'playas' to start stepping back from the after game activities. They let the wife shut it down!! Now these boys are starting to have kids and the ones that ARE still allowed to play softball have to bring the kids with them to the game! Oh no...the wives aren't there...just these former shells of themselves who are now telling all of us to watch our language as their kids trip all over the bats in the dugout. Oh how times have changed. Speaking of which..my kids are teenagers now and I can't remember the last time I asked my wife 'permission' to do anything.
Bottom line, I don't think there's anything wrong with getting together with the boys as long as it doesn't put the life of the soon to be father in jeopardy. Because until that baby is able to wipe his own butt and make his own food, life as you've known it is done.
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This isn't some new idea, by any means... I've done this for a few of my guy friends.
I also take a "man trip" every year. A group of friends of mine all meet up in Vegas for the first weekend of March Madness every year. This will mark the 3rd straight year.
Doing things like this takes an significant marketing effort with the significant other, but it's feasible. I even have a free pass to go to the titter if I want, as long as I don't "purchase" anything.
I also take a "man trip" every year. A group of friends of mine all meet up in Vegas for the first weekend of March Madness every year. This will mark the 3rd straight year.
Doing things like this takes an significant marketing effort with the significant other, but it's feasible. I even have a free pass to go to the titter if I want, as long as I don't "purchase" anything.
Maybe *. I was half sarcastic. Not serious about wasting money, but I do see a lot of friends with kids be completely ridiculous regarding time away from the kids. You obviously lose a ton of free time when you have kids. It blows my mind that more husbands and wives don't encourage and accommodate each other having free nights and/or weekends. I can understand some people genuinely don't feel the need to blow off steam or even relax in that way, but I see way more people that do, with the wife being a complete witch about the guy even having a happy hour after work. I'm sure there are just as many husbands that are a-holes about not being willing to watch the kids so the wife can do the same type stuff, that's just not the side I'm exposed to.
I got a boys trip when my wife was pregnant with each of my girls.
I went on a guys Colorado ski trip and a Saints/Golf weekend trip..
You got to let the wife know that those babies aren't going to keep you from having a good time..
I get several guys trips every year, my wife also takes a trip with her friends. It's all about give and take.
Having children is not the end of the world, they just make your life better...
I went on a guys Colorado ski trip and a Saints/Golf weekend trip..
You got to let the wife know that those babies aren't going to keep you from having a good time..
I get several guys trips every year, my wife also takes a trip with her friends. It's all about give and take.
Having children is not the end of the world, they just make your life better...
When my firstborn was 8 days old, I left for Army Boot Camp. Yelling Sergeants and firing semi-automatic weapons definitely beats a Colicky baby.
This is a far better idea than what I have been subjected to a few times - a baby/wedding/whatever shower for couples. Whatever woman first came up with the thought that men should be invited to a women's party should be shot. Men standing around, bored to death, while the circle of women watch the presents being unwrapped, then they go "oohh" "aahhh." Went to one that was also dry. Luckily it took place in the fall so a jacket was required. Carried a little bottle of rum in the pocket and snuck to the bathroom with Cokes.
Going to a shower is right up there with going shopping with the wife to "just look". Who'd want to do that??
A buddy of mine up here does something pretty cool that doesn't involve strippers.
Basically you have a diaper party. The party consists of 2 or 3 events on a Saturday. Entrance fee for the day is a pack of diapers. During the day you have a team golf scramble. The golf entrance fee is money for entertainment purposes only. The other event is either a huge 2-3 table no limit hold em game or you go bowling and have a small team tournament. Teams can be the same as golf or change em up.
No serious travel required and extremely small chances of your idiot friend cheating on his wife because he's drunk around topless women. Probably cheaper too.
Basically you have a diaper party. The party consists of 2 or 3 events on a Saturday. Entrance fee for the day is a pack of diapers. During the day you have a team golf scramble. The golf entrance fee is money for entertainment purposes only. The other event is either a huge 2-3 table no limit hold em game or you go bowling and have a small team tournament. Teams can be the same as golf or change em up.
No serious travel required and extremely small chances of your idiot friend cheating on his wife because he's drunk around topless women. Probably cheaper too.
