25 year family law paralegal here... as others have stated, you would not believe the shite we've seen, and little to nothing surprises us. If it's a surprise, it's WILD.
WILD: (imho)
Knew my ex wife since the 7th grade.
1) Still have a text from her on my old phone from Oct. 2019 -ish that says "I love you, us, and our life together."
2) Then she was taking little "day trips" with another married man supposedly "for work." (She was already a known adulterer from a previous marriage but I gave her fresh start / chance) *FIRST RED FLAG TRIGGERED*
3) When I tried to talk to her about it and how I thought it was not appropriate - she immediately went on the defensive and said it was appropriate because it was "for work", called me jealous, etc...... *SECOND RED FLAG TRIGGERED*
4) On into the year of 2020 (COVID) (And the election coming up in Nov. of that year) - I was trying to get my parents to sell their house in Charlotte and *GET OUT* before the election......(ie: cash out while the economy is hot and get out of this "Sanctuary city") My parents agreed and did exactly that.....
5) At the same time I found out my 20 year old son had cancer...... and I was extremely upset about the election, my son, the move, etc.....
I was literally crying my eyes out TO THIS WOMAN / my friend / my wife...... and something told me...."shut up dude, she is recording you!!!"
So I asked her point blank, "Are you recording me??" - She looked absolutely shocked.... but said "Yes" (She thought I was going crazy) *THIRD RED FLAG TRIGGERED*
6) Then, after 7 years of literally a fight free marriage and lifelong friendship, she all of a sudden starting picking completely nonsensical fights with me.
7) She also let it be known to me that she was getting some sort of "help" (advice) from outside of our marriage .... with veiled threats and hints of she was going to try to have me committed , etc.... etc.... (the crazy narrative) *FOURTH RED FLAG TRIGGERED*
That's it, we're done....... but I waited..... patiently......
8) (At this point - as an old country boy - I knew she was setting a trap for me of some sort.) The fights?? > Probably trying her best to get me to hit her..... which would have been the lottery for her of course. Likely what she wanted. It did not work out for her..... I don't "hit" anybody.
9) The day she decided to "spring her trap" on me, she barged into the bedroom while I was literally lying there watching television during the Covid lockdown and informed me that she was calling the police on me.......right then.....phone in hand......I was not doing a thing to that woman......
10) The day had come that she sprang her trap....... and I let her walk right into it. While *I CANNOT* get into it..... what I will say is that when you play dirty, underhanded games against someone, don't be surprised when the other person plays dirty too........ I called the cops on her at the same time....... two can play that game, baby.......
11) She left in handcuffs - never saw her again. I lost my son to cancer and my wife to........??? ...... (I call it "woman games")
12) Received an email from her "HR" person at the workplace informing me he was "new" and was not aware that employees / male / female - alone together were taking little day trips on company time and low and behold that IT WAS NOT APPROPRIATE AT ALL (Duh)....and he would see to it that the practice was stopped.
A year later, I filed for absolute divorce. (NC has a 12 month waiting period) My motto is simple: Not happy?? > There's the door. Bye.
I mean....... you can FAFO against me if you want to but it's not a wise thing to do...... She ain't the first crazy woman I've had to show the door. As a side note, the house in Charlotte sold for the most $$ any house in that neighborhood had *EVER* sold for.... and we got them a little place in far west Hickory with a Church as their neighbor and a creek that they Baptize people in, right off the front porch.... and the payoff is $50k...... $50k mortgage...... but yeah, I'm "crazy" ..... uh huh...... (SMDH)