When Stans bent over backwards to jockey your schedule around so that you have nothing but cupcakes during his suspension, followed by an exhibition game before his first live action against a decent opponent, it put too much emphasis on one guy.
Warranted or not, that type of stuff sets the precedent that Sidney is more important than the rest of the team. If this post is true, and he only got a 1 game suspension for that type of action, it furthers that notion, and your team will likely implode because of it.
It's similar to the Nutt type of discipline. He lets certain players, well a lot of players, be above reproach, and that works fine if you have good team leaders keeping everyone in line, but when you're lacking in team leadership that kind of discipline can destroy a team from within.
I've always been for grading on a sliding scale with discipline, so that you make sure you put winning first, but for it to work, you have to have accountability from the team leaders, since it won't be coming in the form of suspensions from the coaches.
If you still had guys like Stewart and Varnado who were good team leaders running the show, then the way Stans has handled Sidney wouldn't be as much of an issue. I don't know who your team leaders are, but from reading this board, it doesn't seem like you have any real team leaders to keep everything in check.