Sounds like you have found happiness and you're going to let your emotions screw it all up.
Tough Life Decision
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It's not too hard to figure out. In every bar in every city in the world, the bartender will flirt with members of the opposite sex to possibly gain a relationship in which they might be renumerated at a higher rate via tips. Being that there is a large homosexual male community in Key West and the fact that the OP is a male bartender, one might make the assumption that the previous scenario might also be applied.
I know that's not the " I BET HE LIEKS DICKS LOLLOLOLOLOOLOLOL" answer you were looking for, but there it is.
The fact you are in the paddock, asking about deciding between a job and a relationship, and saying things like "golly, she's a really good girl and I really like her a lot,"......is not a good sign at all.
I used to play the field and now am married. In my situation this wouldn't be a decision. First, my wife and I respect what each other want out of life.....and we would talk about it to figure out a good solution for us both. Second, if it came down to a finite decision I would choose my wife without a second glance.
I used to play the field and now am married. In my situation this wouldn't be a decision. First, my wife and I respect what each other want out of life.....and we would talk about it to figure out a good solution for us both. Second, if it came down to a finite decision I would choose my wife without a second glance.
A ginger bartender murse in Key West?
No bags of dicks to choke on are necessary. Best of luck.
No bags of dicks to choke on are necessary. Best of luck.
Why is OP the selfish immature one?
What is she doing that is so wonderful that he has to leave a cushy set up?
What is she doing that is so wonderful that he has to leave a cushy set up?
I pictured Ben Stiller when reading this thread.
What would she think of you posting this on the Paddock? I bet she would leave without you.
What would she think of you posting this on the Paddock? I bet she would leave without you.
Age is just a number man. You are the ultimate master of your own destiny. No point in doing something if you're gonna be miserable.
Maybe take up running ultra marathons.
Maybe take up running ultra marathons.
As a woman it's impossible for her to be happy/content for more than 5 seconds, she sees OP is and she cannot have that so she must drag him away from it so they can be miserable together(which of course will make her happy). IMO.
I see that side of it too but to be honest, I could come back. I probably would't get all day shifts again but I could come back.
Right now? I want to stay and we were going to stay longer but the only thing holding her here is me and her house. I don't want to stay forever as I mentioned I don't think it's the best place to raise kids. But this is a super tight cool community that I could grow old in and have a house, a boat, live on an island, never face winter/cold weather, watch Conchs baseball games and honestly not have much of a worry in the world. That being said, I've always wanted a gal to do that stuff with, that has a great family, has money, no debt and whatnot. She has all that. And I definitely love her a lot.
And yeah I'm posting it on the Paddock you tool(whoever said that) because that's what we all do on here. We gather up each day and ask each other ridiculous questions and wait for the good, bad and sarcastic answers about life, pron and UK stuff without knowing the majority of people.
Right now? I want to stay and we were going to stay longer but the only thing holding her here is me and her house. I don't want to stay forever as I mentioned I don't think it's the best place to raise kids. But this is a super tight cool community that I could grow old in and have a house, a boat, live on an island, never face winter/cold weather, watch Conchs baseball games and honestly not have much of a worry in the world. That being said, I've always wanted a gal to do that stuff with, that has a great family, has money, no debt and whatnot. She has all that. And I definitely love her a lot.
And yeah I'm posting it on the Paddock you tool(whoever said that) because that's what we all do on here. We gather up each day and ask each other ridiculous questions and wait for the good, bad and sarcastic answers about life, pron and UK stuff without knowing the majority of people.
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I say close your eyes and imagine your future. Do you see yourself with her? Or do you see location?
If she's the one, you follow her through the gates of hell. If she's not, stay. There are lots of nice girls in this world, but only one.
So many people marry people and stay for so many impure reasons. So many unhappy people because they settled with the wrong woman. People have girlfriends, they move to the next step because either society dictates it, not because they're soul dictates it.
If she makes you a better man, go with her. But it seems like you moved to do soul searching. Is it over? Did you find yourself? Did you find her?
If she's the one, you follow her through the gates of hell. If she's not, stay. There are lots of nice girls in this world, but only one.
So many people marry people and stay for so many impure reasons. So many unhappy people because they settled with the wrong woman. People have girlfriends, they move to the next step because either society dictates it, not because they're soul dictates it.
If she makes you a better man, go with her. But it seems like you moved to do soul searching. Is it over? Did you find yourself? Did you find her?
True grad93 but it's not real close to raise kids and all that. We go up there and visit her family relatively often though and her mom comes down a lot.
She's not happy here, in large part due to the fact no one wants to do anything that isn't related to drinking and neither one of us really does that anymore. Imagine living in Lexington in the winter but you hated UK basketball and everything related to it or if you lived in Summit County, Colorado and hated snow and winter sports.
She's not happy here, in large part due to the fact no one wants to do anything that isn't related to drinking and neither one of us really does that anymore. Imagine living in Lexington in the winter but you hated UK basketball and everything related to it or if you lived in Summit County, Colorado and hated snow and winter sports.
At 34, it really doesn't sound like you're cut out for - or destined for - much more than you have right now.
So congratulations, it sounds like you've peaked in life. Let go of the doubts and enjoy it.
So congratulations, it sounds like you've peaked in life. Let go of the doubts and enjoy it.
In south Florida, the whole concept of "gay for pay" is pretty rampant. Just paying the bills. Imagine the murse still has some equity, so long as he stays in shape.
You have options....
You have options....
There ya go, bucket..
All Paddock **** aside, you love her, I'd make the move, Rogue. For whatever reason **** don't work out, cant say you didn't give it a shot, and move back to KW.
When you KNOW, you know. There are no doubts.
If you don't KNOW, punt.
If you don't KNOW, punt.
I just don't understand why the guy making good stress free money at the beach ain't the one making the calls. Why ain't she begging to move there, or stay there? This is disturbing, imo. Something weird and F'd up behind that. Makes zero sense.
Because these bitches have been emasculated by 50 years of feminist movement and everybody loves raymond.
Can you imagine the Facebook chatter if some mom chose to raise her kids in *gasp*...key west?!!
Key West is a nice place to visit but I'm not sure why anyone would want to live there long term, unless they have absolutely no career ambitions. Sounds like that might be the OP. The "advantages" of KW living (weather, tourist destination, etc..) can be had 4 hours north in Miami/Ft. Lauderdale, where there are real jobs.
At 34, your days of butt for hire are coming to an end. Best to move on and become your girlfriend's ATM. Once she drops that first pup, you are on the hook for the next +18 years. You might even like the longer hours and lower pay that you described just to get away from the insanity that will become your home. I hope her mom is hot because she is going to look just like her once you have kids. It won't matter much anyway because sex after kids is a rarity compared to before. That time can be better used to earn money for your wife's hobbies and the kid's college fund anyway. You will still be able to watch UK games. They will be recorded of course because the kids and wife control the TV and almost every other aspect of your life. You might even be able to sneak in a beer or two late at night. Not too many or your wife will tell you that you have a drinking problem and use it as an excuse to cheat on you with the neighbor. I hope this glimpse into your future helps.
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Duh. Global warming says both Tampa and the Keys are fooked. Might as well be fooked in the keys.
I've only seen pics of like 5 wives on here, but 93% isn't bad. Better than @pepsi man 99 's and a couple others. There was that one wife who the poster put a black bar over her face, but she had nice cans.
Just wanted to chime in and say all the gay jokes are just hilarious! A male nurse/bartender in Key West???? Must be gay!!!! Good stuff!
I didn't know a ginger could survive such hot conditions. Now are you a day Walker or full blown ginger? I read once that each freckle represents a kiss from an angel. If this chick is hot you need to hold onto her like grim death. You have picked the perfect place for all your advice needs.
Sounds like OP kind of got to 30 and probably thought family had passed him by. He then started setting up the Bachelor dream in Key West, but met current girl and she is the one, unfortunately Bachelor dream is all set up perfectly and he is not sure whether to give it up or not. I totally understand. I will say this about marriage.
If you suck or your girl sucks then marriage will suck. Be honest about both of those things, it's easy to see what sucks about others, hard to see what sucks about ourselves. On the other hand, if you are cool, responsible, emotionally stable, and a decent human being and your girl is too, then marriage and a family can be lots of fun and much better than single life
Just my cheap 2 cents, but I hope it helps.
If you suck or your girl sucks then marriage will suck. Be honest about both of those things, it's easy to see what sucks about others, hard to see what sucks about ourselves. On the other hand, if you are cool, responsible, emotionally stable, and a decent human being and your girl is too, then marriage and a family can be lots of fun and much better than single life
Just my cheap 2 cents, but I hope it helps.
winner, winner chicken dinner. My now legal wife and I have had to "give up" a lot of things in order to be together and to build a family together. None of it compared with what we gained with each other. Money and career come and go. Always choose the girl.
Flip a coin. In the seconds that it is in the air, you'll know exactly which one you really want.
Something to be said for this. A lot of our thinking is justifying decisions we've already made subconsciously. Just don't do it for financial decisions, as you should root out your subconscious instincts with ruthless determination and seek actual rational decision making.