Good short story man.
So the parents chose for her? What if she were more prone to the male side as she got older. That would kinda suck.
I always wondered about that, and had the thought again as I was typing. It was never talked about, but was known. I would assume hormone therapy was in play at some point.
I think to answer what I think you are getting at, that is a special case and should be handled as such. If someone goes through what I described then nobody should fault them if it turns out the parents made the wrong choice. I don't think the parents are to blame, for not wanting their child to grow up ridiculed for being hermi though. They made a decision based on faith and odds I would guess.