Good Lord I am not ready for this. She texted me that she could not get up. I got there as fast as I could. She was sitting up on the ground, smoking a cigarette. I got her up and for helped clean her up. Her arm had a big bruise on it and another cut that was bleeding. Then I noticed she had a bleeding scratch on her head. I got her cleaned up and she just wanted to go to bed. So got her in bed and 17, I am just completely rattled.
She is not in bad health overall. Lots of things normal for a 73 year old woman. She already had a med alert necklace on the way, making me wonder if this is not her first fall. I am scared, I am worried, and I am not readdy to lose my momma. I do not know what to do.
I feel your pain, brother. My Daddy passed away unexpectedly in 2006-and my Mama’s health had been declining for years. Daddy was her primary caregiver-he waited on her hand and foot. Daddy was afraid that he would go first-and he did. Our family figured that Mama wouldn’t last a year after Daddy died but we were waaayyy wrong-she lived until 2014. Over the years after Daddy passed away, Mama burned up the roads, going to the “beauty shop” twice a week, to her bridge club, to church, the grocery store and every other place she wanted to go. She was very independent after Daddy died. My biggest fear was that she would have a car wreck-but that never happened.
Mama and Daddy’s house was about 1/2 mile down the road from our house and when I wasn’t traveling I saw her every day. My sister lived in Baton Rouge (about 80 miles away) so I was the primary caregiver for Mama after Daddy died. I went by one afternoon and found her on the floor of her garage sitting there waiting on me to help her get up and into her house. I asked her how long she had been there and she told me that she had been there for about 4 hours just waiting for me or my wife to find her. I asked her why she didn’t call anyone for help and she told me she didn’t want to be a “bother” to anyone. At that point I really felt bad for her and I scolded her and told her to never do that again.
As our parents get older they really don’t want to be a burden on us. They aren’t a burden, but they see it that way, sadly. Mama finally died as the result of a stroke in 2014. I very much wish that she was still around to be a “burden” on me and my family these days. God bless you, brother-I know exactly what you are going through…