OT: Mother In Law...

[Dawgpile]

My mother in law has infested my home.<div>
</div><div>She moved to Nashville over a month ago to "be closer to my grandchildren". The deal with my wife was " a couple of weeks at most, until she finds an apartment". All the apartments she looks at are either too expensive, too far away, or too ******. She has made herself way too comfortable in my house. </div><div>
</div><div>My wife understands my consternation, but keeps reassuring me it won't be much longer....</div><div>
</div><div>I need a subtle way to evict this woman in a way that won't piss off my wife.</div><div>
</div><div>Help me.</div>

 

[Dawgpile]

My mother in law has infested my home.<div>
</div><div>She moved to Nashville over a month ago to "be closer to my grandchildren". The deal with my wife was " a couple of weeks at most, until she finds an apartment". All the apartments she looks at are either too expensive, too far away, or too ******. She has made herself way too comfortable in my house. </div><div>
</div><div>My wife understands my consternation, but keeps reassuring me it won't be much longer....</div><div>
</div><div>I need a subtle way to evict this woman in a way that won't piss off my wife.</div><div>
</div><div>Help me.</div>

 

[Dawgpile]

My mother in law has infested my home.<div>
</div><div>She moved to Nashville over a month ago to "be closer to my grandchildren". The deal with my wife was " a couple of weeks at most, until she finds an apartment". All the apartments she looks at are either too expensive, too far away, or too ******. She has made herself way too comfortable in my house. </div><div>
</div><div>My wife understands my consternation, but keeps reassuring me it won't be much longer....</div><div>
</div><div>I need a subtle way to evict this woman in a way that won't piss off my wife.</div><div>
</div><div>Help me.</div>

 

[dawgoneyall]

can she baby sit....

Make it a positive....LOL. God you are screwed.

Keep us posted.

 

[DawgatAuburn]

If so, post the pics.

 

[Dawgpile]

If so, post the pics.

That's more gross than you can imagine....

 

[BoDawg.sixpack]

you aren't going to override two women who are family. You should've been preparing for 'ad naseum' from the get go. You must be relatively young....

 

[dawgatUSM]

I had almost this exact same thing happen to me not long ago, but thankfully mine only lasted a little over a week. But I was told on the front end it'd just be a couple of days... That 10 days or so seemed like an eternity.

I don't really recall the exact way we finally got rid of her, but I was thankful we did.

Ultimatum's are a good thing in this circumstance I think. Tell your wife that she can politely tell her mother to find a place by (insert date) or you will find a more abrubt way to tell her the same thing.

 

[RocketCityDawg]

I was married to the babies (now 27and 28) momma twice, 10 yrs the first time, 7 yrs the 2nd time.
Yes, I am a low slearner retard.

Had all her fam, her mom, both brothers and one sis, live with us for some extended period of times.
And an aunt, for months following surgery.

Didn't matter to me; that's what family is for.
I was raised Baptist, and still am. God allows us to have crap to deal with.

She left me anyway.
Some women are going to deal behind door #3, regardless.

Find your comfort level. What can you deal with?
Can you communicate with this woman you are married to?
If not, game over.

 

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[Ol Blue.sixpack]

My mother in law has infested my home.<div>
</div><div>She moved to Nashville over a month ago to "be closer to my grandchildren". The deal with my wife was " a couple of weeks at most, until she finds an apartment". All the apartments she looks at are either too expensive, too far away, or too ******. She has made herself way too comfortable in my house. </div><div>
</div><div>My wife understands my consternation, but keeps reassuring me it won't be much longer....</div><div>
</div><div>I need a subtle way to evict this woman in a way that won't piss off my wife.</div><div>
</div><div>Help me.</div>

While I sympathize with you and your situation, my first advice to you would be to quit airing your dirty laundry on the internet. <div>
</div><div>Would you really want to follow the advice of most of the clowns that post here?</div>

 

[Mutt the Hoople.buhoops]

If she's going to stay there, get her to clean house, do the laundry, fix the supper, etc. If she loves it, you have a free housekeeper/nanny.

 

[PBRME]

Find yourself an apartment.

 

[SwampDawg]

nt

 

[DawgBalls2]

moose knuckle

 

[OneParticularHarbor]

It will help you avoid future similar situations.

 

[karlchilders.sixpack]

mmmm...good luck!

 

[thatsbaseball]

it would be to learn everything you can about your wife`s relationship with her parents before you marry. Women (moreso than men) are permanently molded by their relationship with their mother for better or worse. Their relationship can get so bad (weird) later in life it can wreck a marriage if the mother is the dominant/demanding/manipulative type. Be careful my friend....you could be messing with fire.

 

[RocketDawg]

Take a day off from work and search for an apartment, rental house, whatever ... and pay for it yourself if necessary. Otherwise, the longer she stays the more permanent she becomes.

 

[Shmuley]

trot out into the middle of oncoming traffic. Hey, dude, there's a big *** car headed straight for you.

 

[ClintonInHelen]

hitnoku

 

[thunderclap]

After you get done, the medical profession could use your expertise to cure any number of terminal diseases.</p>

 

[weblow]

If you really want her gone, offer to come up with the first and last months rent for her deposit. This will do two things, it will make it not as expensive for her and it will be a nice hint that you really want her to find a place.

Hell, I would make a big deal out of it, say that you and your wife are going to take off work on ______day and spend the entire day helping her find a place.

This way you appear very willing to help out her mother but there is no mistaking that you want her to find a place. I would just keep throwing in comments like, "I really want to help find you a place, I know you are tired of having to put up with us and want a place of your own." The old jedi mind trick.

Another option would be to walk in from work today and announce loudly to your wife and let your mother in law overhear that some friends called you today and wanted to know if they could stay in your place while they are in town in a few weeks. This will make Mother in law feel bad and maybe get her moving quicker. If she ask in a few weeks where the friends are you could just say that it fell through.

 

[Sauron]

Or you and your wife could start having sex in the living room, on the kitchen table, on top of the washer and dryers....Basically make her so uncomfortable that she WANTS to leave.

 

[DerHntr]

in there. NEVER flush. EVER.

If she is too comfortable, then make it uncomfortable.

 

[weblow]

 

[fishwater99]

<span style="font-weight: bold;">I was married to the babies (now 27and 28) momma twice, 10 yrs the first time, 7 yrs the 2nd time.</span><br style="font-weight: bold;"><span style="font-weight: bold;">Yes, I am a low slearner retard.</span>

Had all her fam, her mom, both brothers and one sis, live with us for some extended period of times.
And an aunt, for months following surgery.

Didn't matter to me; that's what family is for.
I was raised Baptist, and still am. God allows us to have crap to deal with.

She left me anyway.
Some women are going to deal behind door #3, regardless.

Find your comfort level. What can you deal with?
Can you communicate with this woman you are married to?
If not, game over.

How do you re-marry your ex-wife? And what does being Baptist have to do with it, I thought Baptist don't believe in divorce..
Sounds like you like punishment...

 

[Buford T. Justice]

[No message]

 

[Ty Webb.sixpack]

So you can hear her coming when you're waxing the dolphin

 

[lariverdog]

Wife got them into the mess, wife can get them out. Otherwise, wife knows she can do whatever and the husband will clean up her stupid moves.

This goes beyond this situation, wife needs to know that she is expected to pull her weight in the relationship responsibilities.

Otherwise you could get kids doing something stupid but because mom knows dad will fix whatever dumbass move the kid makes, she doesn't want to get involved and becomes an enabler.

I could write an entire book on this topic.</p>

 

[NTDawg]

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to stay married stop asking for advice on an internet message board, shut-up
and wait for your wife and her mother to start arguing. Then support your wife
(score some points). In the mean time pour yourself a double bourbon every day when
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[tupelotim]

Start watching this video on the main TV in the living room. It will send a subtle message to you wife and MIL. Post results or videos/pics for further instructions.

 

[Turd Fergusondawg]

Socks can be stealthy.

 

[maroonmadman]

Wash them down with cheap beer. You'll produce large amounts of extremely toxic gas. Pass said gas in the presence of MIL. Often.
Warning: May also run off the spouse. And kids. And pets. And force you to repaint the houses interior.

 

[OxpatchReb]

what kind of adult moves somewhere without a permanent residence already lined up?

I get it. She wants to see the kids more, be closer to family, etc. But unless she was evicted or her house burned down, you do the apt/house hunting BEFORE you move. She should have made a list of places to look at, stayed at your place a few weekends to see them in person and picked a place, put down the deposit and moved as soon as things could be planned and logistics arranged.

The problem is that your MIL does not respect your privacy as a family and does not see her presence as impolite or a hindrance. It appears to me that you might have bigger issues with her than this little situation. I hope she's at least a nice woman and is easy to get along with. If she's over bearing or difficult, may God have mercy on your soul and your marriage.

 

[Seinfeld]

and truth be told, you probably should be. This is dangerous territory.

I don't know how you got into this mess and I guess it doesn't matter at this point, but the time for subtlety is over. It sounds to me like she's already getting mighty comfortable with the "situation" and I'd say there's a good chance that she'd like to make it permanent. I don't know why but at some point in their lives, it seems to be a common mother-in-law's dream to pull exactly what yours is trying to do.

I understand that you don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, but I'd look at it like this. As good as her intentions may be, she's already causing problems and rest assured that she has the capability of ruining your marriage. Will she and your wife be mad if you kick her out? Yeah, probably for a little while. But if she stays, you're going to eventually go insane and you can quite possibly kiss your marriage goodbye if she is anywhere near the controlling type.

So with that said... talk with her to understand her needs/budget, help her out as best you can, and get something done. The avalanche is coming

 

[BulldogBlitz]

leave a word document open on the house computer... it should have something like this:

Dear Penthouse Forum:

I never thought I'd get to live out this fantasy with my MIL and wife, but it looks like a real possibility now...

that'll pretty much do it.

 

[Seinfeld]

I can envision my own MIL doing this exact same thing. There have been a couple times recently where my family and I were about to have to move due to work, and she flat out said that she was going to move too. Even with no job, no house, etc, I can honestly see her pulling something like this and giving me the same "I'll just live with y'all for a couple weeks" routine.

To cut them a little slack, I do think a big part of it is simply staying close to family, but I also think there's more to it than that. My MIL has a very controlling and blunt personality and when you combine that with my wife being her only child, I think she gets uncomfortable when she isn't somewhere where she can call the shots(being close to my wife). Anyway, we get along great because she really is awesome and she doesn't pull that crap with me, but rest assured that she will NEVER live with us for any length of time unless there is some terminal illness in the equation. You hit the nail on the head that the main issue is that this woman doesn't respect their privacy as a family, and that unfortunately seems to be pretty common with older, single MILs.

 

[The Peeper]

inner stresses and either force her out or kill her with the stress.

 

[Shmuley]

nm