I went to State for, um, awhile, and now live in Austin.
From the few times I've been to A&M, there are more women @ state than
at college station.
If you are interested in military stuff, then A&M is clearly better. Also, if you are
interested in texas connections, then A&M is better. As a school though, particularly
in engineering, you are going to have better access to the profs @ state.
For whatever reason, it seems like both Utexas and A&M have grad students teaching
most classes, even high level ones in engineering.
Finally, I think pork bbq is better than beef bbq, and that all tea should be "sweet" by default.