Things your in-laws do that make you irrationally insane

FrontRangeDawg

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My FiL is a great guy who spends his entire life serving my absolutely unhinged MiL. She's a combo of almost all of the worst things y'all have listed here. She's had terminal cancer for 22 years. She did (and still does) a tremendous amount of damage to all of her kids. I manage to deal with her well mostly through avoidance and having 1300 miles between us.

The one thing I can't avoid getting mad about is her chronic lateness. You can't even really call it being late. It's more being purely inconsiderate. She is late for everything, including weddings, funerals, every single dinner we've ever hosted. Everything. She has missed more plane flights than anyone I've known and she always blames it on my FiL, even when she's not getting ready for the flight an hour beforehand. She's also not afraid to blame TSA (especially when she's going through Denver, because they're mostly East African and, y'know).

Just a mind-boggling woman. Unfortunately, it sounds like there are a lot of these out there.
 
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Seinfeld

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I’m in a similar position. Absolute manipulative lying monster that guilt trips my wife constantly. Everything has to go her way. She got her azzz over her shoulders and said she would NEVER move to where we are for her care. Don’t threaten me with a good time, biznatch. It’s not like we don’t have a home, property, kids and jobs here that we can just walk away from. Oh, and she’s nearly broke for bailing her other kids out of their messes for the past 20 years. Those kids are so thankful to her, they are now full-time in house leaches. As far as I’m concerned, They can tend to crusty battle ax.

On one hand, the kind, Christian provider in me says you’ll have to bite the bullet and help this woman out some when she’s crippled and broke.

On the other hand, I’ve about convinced myself to just let the manipulative cuntshit lay in the bed she’s made. She wanted it this way, she can 17in have it.
Brother, im right there with you. My MiL’s current state is the culmination of a lifetime of poor financial and lifestyle changes, and every fiber of my being wants to let her reap what she’s sown.

That said, she’s the mother of my wife who happens to be an only child, so I know that this isn’t something I’m just going to be able to completely ignore for the rest of my life.

I can’t pretend to know where our heads will be ten years from now or even one year in the future, but the compromise that my wife have for now is that we can offer her Sunday night dinners, help with odd jobs, and shoulders to cry on, but it’s not our responsibility to fix all of her personal and financial woes. She’s dug herself one hell of a hole that will likely have her working well into her 80s, but we’re not here to be her retirement savior.
 

T-TownDawgg

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Brother, im right there with you. My MiL’s current state is the culmination of a lifetime of poor financial and lifestyle changes, and every fiber of my being wants to let her reap what she’s sown.

That said, she’s the mother of my wife who happens to be an only child, so I know that this isn’t something I’m just going to be able to completely ignore for the rest of my life.

I can’t pretend to know where our heads will be ten years from now or even one year in the future, but the compromise that my wife have for now is that we can offer her Sunday night dinners, help with odd jobs, and shoulders to cry on, but it’s not our responsibility to fix all of her personal and financial woes. She’s dug herself one hell of a hole that will likely have her working well into her 80s, but we’re not here to be her retirement savior.
If mine would stop the manipulative guilt tripping and show just a smidge of appreciation and loyalty, I’d reconsider. Until then,

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paindonthurt

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My mother in law did this to my wife in high school.


Thats terrible but i'm willing to bet that spans alot of generations.

My parents were born in the early to mid 50s. 1953 and 1955.

My mom won't touch the principle in her 401k bc she is determined to pass it on to her children. Its not a ton of money but it could give her and my dad quite a bit of enjoyment even with their kids and grandkids.

They always did without so their children could have things they wanted vs just things they needed.

I know you aren't saying all boomers are like that tweet, but some idiots (goat) are.
 

OopsICroomedmypants

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My MIL pisses me off sometimes because she passed her genetics on to my wife and one of my kids. It’s evident when my wife has a snippy bitchy attitude that makes me question if Adam wanted his rib back.
 
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