I get that everyone is eager to move on from this ugly episode—I do too. Still think it prudent to reserve judgment... Investigations take time (since people are referencing 2011–recall that grew out of a years long investigation and grand jury before the press printed a whisper). We don’t know what will be unearthed from what side.
I find the way most people use and are used by social media deeply troubling. But why are we rooting for newlywed kids to get a divorce exactly? What I’m rooting for is growth, wisdom and mental health.
This is where I come down too.
Honestly, I don't like the incessant speculation in this thread and need by some to tear down Beau and others, especially when the facts are unknown. I only check this thread now to see if there is some actual news of relevance, which there rarely is.
I don't know what's true and what's false or exaggerated in all this. Like 99% of this board, I'm not close to anyone who would know. And even those who would "know" are limited by their own perspective, paradigm, maturity, and life experience. All of us have known and unknown blind spots.
I believe that Beau and his wife believe what they are alleging is true, and that they believe it is serious enough to get it out in the light of day. That doesn't make them right, and I sure hope they are wrong. But I'll give them the benefit of the doubt that they are at least showing the courage of their convictions, and doing so at the risk of losing friends, supporters, and possible financial opportunities. That's a character trait I hope my own kids have, again assuming their actions are based on a sincerely held belief.
Sometimes people turn to very public outlets to sound an alarm when they don't believe those who should do something are listening to the alarm bells. Sometimes those people turn out to be wrong or to have overreacted, but not always.
Years ago a friend of mine was shockingly diagnosed with aggressive cancer after experiencing some abdominal pain one weekend. He had no other warnings or prior health conditions but was a vibrant young dad. Any chance to avoid making his wife a young widow and his several small kids fatherless required an immediate move to a distant city that had the best cancer treatment facilities in the state.
Despite knowing this, his landlord would not let his family out of the year-long lease they had just renewed. Facing an imminent explosion of medical bills and being a family of modest means, we tried every method of persuasion with the landlord to get out of the lease and spare the family as much financial damage as possible. We appealed to his humanity, offered to pay rent until a new tenant could be found (would've taken less than 1 week in that market), agreed to forfeit the substantial lease deposits, etc. All to no avail.
As a last resort and feeling desperate, we contacted the local media, who came and did a brief story on the situation. Within minutes of the story airing that night the landlord contacted my friend, said it was a big misunderstanding, and let him out of the lease immediately with no further financial obligations and a full refund of all deposits.
I have never taken steps to so publicly air a grievance before or since, and this was before the eruption of social media. Obviously that was a very different situation than has been raised by BB and his wife. But I can understand why someone might resort to a no-holds-barred publicity campaign if they believe their cause is particularly just, even if it looks to the rest of the world like an irresponsible nuclear option.
. Even after I typed in the words, spellcheck corrected me three times. Not saying that I agree or disagree, but you’re getting a Like from me for that post!
