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Have you tried to work it out? Usually most couples aren’t communicating their needs/wants to each other before they get divorced
Are y’all unequally yoked? Been where you are in my first marriage, and we were most definitely unequally yoked. My 2nd marriage has lasted 31 years. I think the equal yoking has something to do with our working through Our difficulties over those 31 years.
Equally Yoked
covers a lot of territory.
What is your definition?
Inquiring minds want to know. ( I don't work for a chic magazine)
covers a lot of territory.
What is your definition?
Inquiring minds want to know. ( I don't work for a chic magazine)
I think hes asking if you believe in the same god. My wife and I dont and I dont think it's a problem, in fact it works out well. Some people look at that 50%+ divorce rate and need a simple explanation. Unfortunately there are typically very few of those in this situation.
Best of luck to you. I've had a few friends go through it, for the better for most of them. Still, one of the hardest things they have ever done.
Best of luck to you. I've had a few friends go through it, for the better for most of them. Still, one of the hardest things they have ever done.
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Does she have a degree that provides an income? If so then no reason to pay alimony. No kids so thats really good. You don’t want to deal with a woman you have no interest in for another 10-15 years. Can tell you that from experience!
If you can keep lawyers out of the equation both of you will be better off in the end, so don’t be scared to negotiate and try not to win at all cost and in the end you’ll be better off.
If you can keep lawyers out of the equation both of you will be better off in the end, so don’t be scared to negotiate and try not to win at all cost and in the end you’ll be better off.
Not correct.
Here’s some helpful reading from the Mississippi Bar:
https://www.msbar.org/for-the-public/consumer-information/how-is-the-amount-of-alimony-determined/
In Mississippi, with a Irreconcilable Difference divorce, both parties have to agree to all aspects of the divorce settlement for the divorce to be final. That means the one that wants out the most, has the least negotiating power. how bad does she want out? You?
Usually alimony isn't ordered unless there is an at fault divorce.
Less than twice in salary, isn't a huge amount. You will have to split the equity in the house. You'll have to split 401ks and other assets paid off. If you have assets with liens, she'll take her asset and debit. you'll take your Asset and debt. Without kids, and an I.D. Divorce, you should get out fairly unscathed.
Usually alimony isn't ordered unless there is an at fault divorce.
Less than twice in salary, isn't a huge amount. You will have to split the equity in the house. You'll have to split 401ks and other assets paid off. If you have assets with liens, she'll take her asset and debit. you'll take your Asset and debt. Without kids, and an I.D. Divorce, you should get out fairly unscathed.
I don't know about the laws in Mississippi but your situation sounds a lot like when my first wife and I got divorced in Louisiana a decade or so ago. No kids, been married about six years, etc...
Ours was fairly amicable and we decided the best thing was to just move ahead with moving ahead as painlessly as possible. We basically split everything down the middle (savings, house proceeds when we sold it, etc...) and I gave her a small amount of cash (couple thousand dollars paid monthly over two years or so) so that she would give up any claim to the part of my retirement I had accrued while we were together (don't know about other places but in Louisiana, ex-spouses can claim part of your retirement).
We basically had everything lined up so that when we went to a lawyer, all they had to do was type everything up and file the appropriate paperwork. We only used one lawyer between the two of us. Saved us money and just made life easier all the way around.
Good luck. Even though it was amicable, it was still a tough situation. But I'm glad I got through it because I am much happier now and married to my favorite person in the world.
Ours was fairly amicable and we decided the best thing was to just move ahead with moving ahead as painlessly as possible. We basically split everything down the middle (savings, house proceeds when we sold it, etc...) and I gave her a small amount of cash (couple thousand dollars paid monthly over two years or so) so that she would give up any claim to the part of my retirement I had accrued while we were together (don't know about other places but in Louisiana, ex-spouses can claim part of your retirement).
We basically had everything lined up so that when we went to a lawyer, all they had to do was type everything up and file the appropriate paperwork. We only used one lawyer between the two of us. Saved us money and just made life easier all the way around.
Good luck. Even though it was amicable, it was still a tough situation. But I'm glad I got through it because I am much happier now and married to my favorite person in the world.
Hate that for y’all. Since this is entirely anonymous, what happened? Was it one big event that kinda knocked y’all off track?
..and the best case scenario, there's no children involved. good luck. looks like you've got your answer in the thread.
Let me add a couple more pieces of advice...
Make sure anything that has a title is in the name of whoever is going to keep it. We ran into a slight snag because her car was in my name. I took it off my insurance when we split but we didn't think to do anything with the title so the state of Louisiana still thought I owned it. I had to jump through a bunch of hoops when I had to renew my license. They wanted to ding me for having an uninsured car. Took a lot of faxes and two or three trips to the DMV to get sorted.
Make sure you really, really care about something before you argue about it. While my divorce was mostly amicable, it wasn't without its disagreements. Oddly enough, the thing we bickered about the most was who was going to keep a piece of $20 art we'd gotten on a trip to Europe. But I realized one day that all I really wanted was to feel like I had "won" something and that I didn't really care about the painting. It was an "in the moment" disagreement and, looking back, I don't regret letting go of it... or any of the other things I let her keep.
Make sure anything that has a title is in the name of whoever is going to keep it. We ran into a slight snag because her car was in my name. I took it off my insurance when we split but we didn't think to do anything with the title so the state of Louisiana still thought I owned it. I had to jump through a bunch of hoops when I had to renew my license. They wanted to ding me for having an uninsured car. Took a lot of faxes and two or three trips to the DMV to get sorted.
Make sure you really, really care about something before you argue about it. While my divorce was mostly amicable, it wasn't without its disagreements. Oddly enough, the thing we bickered about the most was who was going to keep a piece of $20 art we'd gotten on a trip to Europe. But I realized one day that all I really wanted was to feel like I had "won" something and that I didn't really care about the painting. It was an "in the moment" disagreement and, looking back, I don't regret letting go of it... or any of the other things I let her keep.
I feel certain that he was referring to the Biblical definition of marrying someone who does not follow Christ, if you do, or vice versa.
I’m just going by what the judge ruled in my case. Basically what I was telling him it’s not worth going to court and feeding the pockets of “family law” attorneys.
I went up against supposedly the top divorce attorney in Mississippi and won. Walked away with my original offer and she came down 93%. It cost a combined 70k in legal frees to get to that point.
Most divorce lawyers are scum. Try your best to stay away from the whole situation.
I went up against supposedly the top divorce attorney in Mississippi and won. Walked away with my original offer and she came down 93%. It cost a combined 70k in legal frees to get to that point.
Most divorce lawyers are scum. Try your best to stay away from the whole situation.
I can verify. Getting divorced sucks, but I’m happier being divorced than I was during the last 7 years of my marriage.
I am married to a Rebel and it's not a problem. He brother, now that's another story.
It's also a lot easier since we aren't living in MS.
[FONT="]2 Corinthians 6:14 “Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?”
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If it was yours going into the marriage it is your coming out of the marriage.. Joint property is 50/50. Now a lot of guys give that up to get out of Alimony.