I cannot see myself making a statement to the entire class about what they wear and I am never alone with a student, ever.
Need help with a cleavage issue
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Let me reiterate that she is not dressing like this for my benefit. At least I don’t believe so. Class has only met for 3 weeks, but I believe it’s just how she dresses.
That wouldn’t work in the classroom I’m in. And, like I said in a previous comment, I don’t get the feeling that she dresses like that for anyone’s benefit but her own. She just doesn’t seem like the kind of person who is thirsty for attention, although she might not mind it.
I don’t know if we even have a dress code. I’ll have to check. And it’s not that she’s dressing obscenely. I’d call it more provocative, and as a professional educator, I’ll just have to deal with it.
No, no! You’re not playing the gaaaame!
She goes to these lengths to entice you and your only response is "Gee I better not get caught peeking at her”.
It's the timeless art of seduction! You got to join in the dance! She wears enticing clothes, you wear them too, right back!
I wouldn't point out what anybody is or isn't wearing. I would just reiterate the student dress code and refer the students to the policy. You could even state that you're reiterating this at the behest of the administration to deflect direct responsibility.
To each their own. I guess being in Corrections has taught me to tackle problems head on, sometimes literally.
Generally universities don’t have formal student dress codes. I just googled Penn State, Georgetown, Duke, nothing.
Come on everyone --
This is not High School, or coat and tie, skirt required at the knees Administrative Policy - you dress as you please.
Evidently, she is a fully developed, well-endowed nice/good looking/beautiful woman. Who wouldn't want to enjoy all the benefits of an emotional situation/tryst? But - but -but she is young and this is a classroom, and looking without leering is hard.
Only one thing to do - Deal With It. She will not be yours - even for a moment - Deal With It !!
When you were in school the teachers were 70 yrs old. Now they have hot 20 something cheerleader chicks teaching school. You probably didnt have any game skills. These days 15 year olds are hitting on teachers through social media.
There’s a
in it for you if you look at her and say, “Boy, that Jane Mansfield had some big breasts!”
I only knew of 1 female teacher that got involved with a student and it wasn't at my school (early 90s).
However, at the jail that I work at 99% of all the inappropriate sexual relationships between staff and inmates involve female staff members.
Dealing with it is exactly my strategy. And just for the record - I NEVER said, let alone implied, anything about wanting her to be mine.
I would, but I choose remaining employed over a free beer (even though I bet she has no idea who Jane Mansfield is).There’s a
Ain't nobody out there who wants to see me wearing "enticing" clothes. That includes my wife!
I probably should've put "issue" in quotes in the title since it's not an issue unless I make it one. Which I won't. But thanks for the advice.
The dress code at Penn State, Georgetown, and Duke is nothing? That's gotta' be way more distracting than what I'm dealing with.
It sounds like you know how to handle this. I doubt you will get any useful advice here. Good luck.
A couple of questions out of pure curiosity.
1. How would you rate this girls' non-mammary physical attractiveness on a scale of 1 (fugly) to 10 (Bo Derek)?
2. Have any male students in your classroom tried hitting on her?
If not, there's something wrong with her. It's college....males hit on anything attractive with a pulse.
Guys were hitting on her… that’s what started this mess. When she told a dude, “they’re real and they’re spectacular!”… things took a turn!!!
Yep, apparently so. I know damn well if I was standing up there, she would be grossed out and probably make sure to bring 2 or 3 blankets to class. Think of the offering this guy gets. Must be nice.
- It’s difficult to pick a number, but I’d say a 7, maybe an 8.
- Not that I’m aware of.
In case anyone was wondering, class was held online yesterday due to the recent winter weather (not my decision). We’ll meet again in person tomorrow, and I’ll post an update here if there’s anything more to report.
Let’s just say that perhaps in this situation the less identifying information, the better.